So H has a job opportunity...

karebear304 · July 2011

in Korea. Crap.

We wanted to get out of Knoxville early, but not for this. Problem is it's like an amazing job. Would push him way closer to making his next rank, looks great on his "package" as they call it, etc.

He has to decide if he wants to apply by July 29th. Here are our choices:

1. Stay in Knoxville, ignore job, continue to TTC and move in 2 years.

2. H goes to Korea 1 year unaccompanied I can either stay here or go back to Charleston or down to NOLA with my parents. H won't be "deployed" so I can visit as much as I want and he can come home maybe once.

3. We do 2 years and I go with H, which would mean we bring the cats. On a plan to Korea. Super stressed about that thought. If we were doing 4 years it seems worth it, but 2...not really liking this option. (...and no we'd never just leave the pets and go).

So now we're both all torn. Esepcially with all my boss drama below, I'd hate to leave her.

My 2nd WWYD of the day I suppose, WWYD???

(...and please don't put any of this on Facebook).

cschissell · July 2011

It sounds like a pretty amazing opportunity. I personally would love to live in another country for a few years. Before you decide though you may want to find out if you will have to put your animals in quarantine when they get to Korea. A friend was contemplating a move to Australia because of her husbands job and they would have had to put their dogs in quarantine for several months when they got there with them.

karebear304 · July 2011

We've started researching it and it depends on which base we end up on. (He has to double check). I know at this point we can definitely bring them, but I'm not sure on the quarantine.

buckeyethor · July 2011

I would take it for 2 years. I would continue TTC. I assume the base or whatever there has the appropriate facilities for baby makin'. Your child won't even remember those years but it will be a great opportunity to further your family's career and be better in the long run.

AKBrideinMD · July 2011

buckeyethor:
I would take it for 2 years. I would continue TTC. I assume the base or whatever there has the appropriate facilities for baby makin'. Your child won't even remember those years but it will be a great opportunity to further your family's career and be better in the long run.

This. Assuming you have access to acceptable healthcare for your pregnancy/childbirth (I'd imagine that you would being on base, right? I don't know much about that...) I would do the 2 years. I'd love the opportunity to live in another country for a couple of years but know that I would be coming home in a reasonable time, plus it sounds like it's great for your DH's career.

Bella in CT · July 2011

Like cschissell, I'd love the opportunity to live abroad for a while - so we'd more than likely go with option 3. I don't think that I'd want to subject my kitties to the ordeal for just two years - I'd find a friend or family member that could take them for that time.

karebear304 · July 2011

Bella in CT:
Like cschissell, I'd love the opportunity to live abroad for a while - so we'd more than likely go with option 3. I don't think that I'd want to subject my kitties to the ordeal for just two years - I'd find a friend or family member that could take them for that time.

I would cry so, so hard over this. I really don't think I could do it. Crazy cat lady, perhaps, but I'd almost rather stay with them and see H a few times for one year than leave them for two.

Maybe because I'm used to being away from H for weeks at a time...?

BMWwife · July 2011

Where is VA when we need her??? Come out come out from whatever Italian fantasy you are hiding in LOL.Kare needs advice!!

I would go with him to Korea for 2 yrs. We are independent and we do our own things a lot but there is now way I could go 2 years not being with him if I had the opportunity to. Plus I think it would be a great way to see another county. Not to mention that you said it would help his career. I also wouldn't want to put off TTC for another 2 yrs and then feel like the pressure is really on when those 2 yrs are over.

As far as the kitties go, I'd be a mess too about having to put Raven through a long flight (Puddin probably wouldnt make the trip with us, I know I'm awful and I'm playing favorites). Talk to you vet about your options for them flying (ie sedatives, in cabin, shipping services).

MadameD517 · July 2011

I think I would stay and have H go for a year. My ex-bf before H was in the Marines and after that I would not want to be anywhere near North Korea for an extended amount of time. As long as you can visit I think it's totally do-able.

colenmike · July 2011

I personally think you are given some amazing oppurtunities in life and this would be one of them.

I would do the 2 years and go with him. Double check on the quarantine thing but I think it would be worth it even if you are close and would have to leave them.

And I agree I would double check but you'll be getting healthcare on base I would assume and can continue your baby making just fine.

karebear304 · July 2011

BMWwife:

Where is VA when we need her??? Come out come out from whatever Italian fantasy you are hiding in LOL.Kare needs advice!!

I would go with him to Korea for 2 yrs. We are independent and we do our own things a lot but there is now way I could go 2 years not being with him if I had the opportunity to. Plus I think it would be a great way to see another county. Not to mention that you said it would help his career. I also wouldn't want to put off TTC for another 2 yrs and then feel like the pressure is really on when those 2 yrs are over.

As far as the kitties go, I'd be a mess too about having to put Raven through a long flight (Puddin probably wouldnt make the trip with us, I know I'm awful and I'm playing favorites). Talk to you vet about your options for them flying (ie sedatives, in cabin, shipping services).

It wouldn't be two years. It'd be him going for a year alone or us both going for two.

Honestly right now I'm leaning towards him going for one. As much as I hate to be away from him if it's that good of an opportunity I don't want to hold him back. Stopping TTC for a year would suck though. We could still TTC on visits, but who knows how much we'd really be able to visit.

Aggghhh...stress!

D&J_052408 · July 2011

I think I would want to go, but at the same time he could get it done in half the time if you stayed. Good luck making a decision! I know it has to be so hard to make a decision like that.

MarylandWed · July 2011

gosh i guess i am the lone ranger here because i say stay. in my life when an opportunity hasnt been right and i have turned it down another better opportunity has come along. i have to think because you are in the military other opportunities to live abroad will come about although that desire was more echoed in others' responses than yours. i just tend to think there are knoxville's all over. what's to say that where you are in korea is not just as bad? except you are in a foreign country. no thanks! i definitely wouldnt leave my h for a year. that seems risky (and hard) and i wouldnt want to do anything to risk my marriage. even though you could visit how realistic is that to do more than once when you have a job and i assume limited vacation time. while two years is a long time to stay in knoxville it's not that long and maybe you will get another opportunity to leave again. my h was military and was stationed in hawaii. when he did his two weeks for the reserves once he went to italy. there's so many better places than korea imo.

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