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Getting out of a rut. . .
Hey All, I'm new here but could use some advice.
My husband and I have had a really rough couple of years. We've definately fallen into a rut in just about everything. We don't get out much, have sex much, etc. Of it all the lack of sex is bugging me the most. We keep saying we're going to get back to working out, eating right and I know if we do the sex thing will get better too but then we just don't.
Any advice on ways to motiviate ourselves?
Thanks in advance!
Re: Getting out of a rut. . .
Starting small would be a good start.:)
Every local paper has a "Things To Do" section. Or there might be an on line edition of TTD. Why not check it out and pick out one activity a weekend?
It need not be expensive. There are low cost events, museum exhibits, minor league baseball games, concerts in the park during the summer (usually free, btw) or you might take a bus into the nearest local big city and window shop, take a walk in the city's big park, etc.
You could also look into a sport/activity you can do together. Rollerblading, biking in the park, ballroom dance lessons, coed martial arts lessons, cooking lessons, etc and more.
You could also volunteer jointly: try your house of worship, a local animal shelter or an after school/weekend youth program for kids. Kids also need mentors and adults to look up to.
How about jumping into the shower with him? or set up a nice bath for 2; add candles and music and wine and munchies. Get in, enjoy and then let nature take its course.:)
Hi there,
I was/am having a similar situation. What really helped us the last couple of weeks is making a real effort to get out of the house and spend time together. I had thought we need to stay in because it's too expensive to go out all the time, but it was taking a toll on our relationship and only made the rut worse. We were physically together all the time, watching tv and eating together, but just doing the same thing over and over like we were roommates.
I went online and found coupons for an amusement park and we had a great day together. (it is also great excercise!) I also love grocery shopping together and I shop healthier with him there with me. We also went to a baseball game the other night. Even getting out of the house just to walk our dog together seems to be a nice way to get out and about. It sounds silly, but our sex life improved because our rut improved; like you said once the relationship gets better, the sex will fall into place too.
Good luck!
p.s. I found coupon codes for activities at retailmenot.com and through google, you just type in the spot where you'd like a discount. I got half off for my tickets!