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you just dont excite me anymore
so today i ask my husband why we dont have sex as much as we use to anymore. and he said i just dont excite him anymore. what can i do to get that strive back? I miss it. Im not a very outgoing person when it comes to sex. anyone have any ideas on how i can become more entertaining in the bedroom and get him excited about being around me again.
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Re: you just dont excite me anymore
Get a better explanation than "you just don't excite me anymore". That's pretty vague and it's hard to make any recommendation based on his explanation. If you can't reasonably discuss this with your husband, than I think your problems lie outside the bedroom.
Nobody said you should be some sort of a bedroom acrobat, and he must have had some idea of who you were when you got married. Apart from that, it's a 2 way street. You say that you're not very outgoing, but he should be making some effort as well.
Has there been any major changes in your life / relationship during this time?
Gee, what a way with words. He put the onus on you? Sheesh.
You and he need to work on this together. Sit down with him and discuss what the both of you would like -- this swings both ways.
I hope he means "honey, we're in a bad sexual rut and I'd like us to find new and exciting ways to have sex; wouldn't that be great".
Communication is key. GL.
I always suggest masturbation. If you haven't tried it, start. it's a sure fire way to get excited about having sex.:)
You could always ask him what kind of stuff does excite him and try to incorporate it a bit. But sex isn't a one way street, if he isn't getting excited, then he needs to tell you why or what he would like to do different. If he's already bored with sex with you after only 9 months of marriage, then obviously something is missing.
My husband loves the random surprise of me throwing him on the bed and taking control. He's usually the one that does that so when I switch it up on him and really makes him happy! lol
My husband and I have created a "to-do list" filled with sex positions we want to try or that we like, intimate activities we would like to try, and just be together things like a day free of internet, tv, cell phone distractions. Then we can individually or together choose something to do and surprise the other person.
It's a lot of fun to talk together to create the list then even more fun completing the items on the list.