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How do you feel about evites?
I get that e-vites (either through the evite website, or some other form of electronic invitation) have replaced regular invites for many events, but even as a person who tries to be very environmentally conscious, I think that you still need paper invites for certain events.
Your thoughts?
Have you ever gotten an evite for an event and thought- wow an evite?
Re: How do you feel about evites?
I like using them, but for certain people I know, I still have to make a phone call because they either don't have e-mail or don't check it.
I did get an e-mail invitation to a wedding once... it wasn't an Evite, but it linked to their wedding website, you could RSVP online and everything. It was a backyard BBQ (Andy Nelson's, yum!) type wedding, they were trying to be very environmentally conscious (recyclable plates, cups, etc.), plus they planned it in just a couple of months. All this was fine and good... I only gave the side-eye when the bride came out in a 2nd dress.
I think if you are expecting a gift, there should be a real invite.
I did real invites for E's first b-day, but have done evites since, because we have invited a lot of the parents' group we are in- I always put something about no gifts on the invite/evite.
By far and large I don't care. I don't think an evite is "less special" but rather less costly and less wasteful. I'd be surprised if someone had a fancy black-tie wedding and sent out evites, but in the wedding Bailey described above, it made perfect sense.
DD's birthday invites have, by far and large, been evites. I sent out paper invites this year because I found some I absolutely loved on Etsy and had the time to have them printed and mailed. Her party is no less special because I send the invite electronically
Huh? What on earth is the connection between those two things?
I'm an evite person. I am not offended nor do I think bad of a person if they use evite. I think it's a great online tool since so many use email, so it's quick, versatile and easy to use.
*gasp* i sent my child's 1st birthday party invitations through evite ... I should be banned to the lion pits
Now when they are older and you're inviting friends etc, yes a paper invite is more appropriate.
Ditto
To tack on to this and follow-up to my own previous post, when DD is older and we're inviting her friends to parties, we'll send invitations to them in the mail. I would hope 8-year olds wouldn't have free rein use of the internet and email, so sending an evite would be silly.
But right now, DD's parties consist of family and our closest friends. Considering my family can't manage to plan parties in advance enough to do ANY kind of invites, e-or-otherwise, I highly doubt they're judging me. And I would hope I don't have the kind of friends who would judge me either. They'd be pretty shiitty friends if they did.
It's just a personal thing- kind of like how some people feel a wedding gift should cover the "cost of the plate." I feel that if you are expecting (or in the case of a shower asking for a gift) you should make the effort to get a hard copy invitation into someone's hands. Again, it's just my personal opinion.
I understand that it's a personal thing, but I don't understand the reasoning, which sounds like "just because I think so." Do you think it shows that they care more, or have put more effort, or what? I'm not attacking, I'm just utterly baffled.
I also think the "rule" that a wedding gift should cover the cost of a plate is asinine. Actually, I think that for any "rule" associated with a gift. It's a gift.
I think for weddings a paper invitation is still appropriate. And I like paper invites for baby and wedding showers but that depends on the actual invite.
I had a friend who sent out her STD for her wedding as an evite and had everyone RSVP with their address (visible only to her) which I thought was a clever way to get necessary addresses etc. Then she sent out "real" invitations for the wedding.
I agree, but then for more casual things or even birthday parties I'm fine with evites. It's easier and I like being able to see everyone who is coming.
Buy-crap parties-evites are ok
Casual cookout-evites are ok
Anything else-paper invite please!
We have lost too many of the niceties, and the expectations of those things, that I think it is killing our society. Call me old fashioned, but I like receiving handwritten things in the mail. It's personal.
I'm okay with e-vites for most events. Now if it were a black tie wedding I would probably give it the side eye. DH and I got a save the date in the mail a few months ago for one of his friend's weddings. It was cute, a few casual pictures of the two of them. It was sort of like the picture Christmas cards DH and I have sent out the past few years.
Then about 2 weeks ago we received a post card from this same couple (no envelope). It had the parents' names, the btb and gtb's names, info about the church and reception site and then an email address to send your RSVP to. That I didn't get. No picture of the two of them, no address or phone number to which we would send our RSVPs. The actual invitation itself was less formal than their STD. I was confused. But it may be just me!
Anything other than a formal wedding, I'd prefer an evite.
We always send our paper invitations for Aiden's birthday parties. I usually do a photo invite.
I also always send out thank you cards, which are another thing that has sadly seemed to have gone by the wayside.
miscarriage on 11/26/09 at 5w6d
I like evites for bbq's or other casual events. I think anything other event should require a paper invite. There is so much out there in different price ranges.
I love paper products and I really think it sets the tone of the event. I did a paper invite for my daughters's baptism and I absolutely loved it. Mary Elliott used the design for the cake, the color scheme was used in the house, etc.. I just purchased a party package on etsy and it comes with a personalized invite. It was $30 which I don't think is much especially when it comes to all it comes with. I also plan on sending paper invites to the holiday party but some of that stems from some of the older generation not having an email account etc..
I agree completely with Meghan. I love evites, as a host and guest.
As a host it is such a great way to look over the list that got the evite, you can see who viewed the evite and you have right there the responses ... which are made easy for the guest. People are much more likely to click on yes or no in an evite than picking up the phone to RSVP.
As a guest I love it for the same reason mentioned above, I just need to click to RSVP. I also don't need to worry about loosing the invite and with that important info.. I can just log into evite.com and double check.
The only event I would think it's odd for would be a formal wedding.
I prefer paper invites for weddings and showers mainly because I'm a paper/stationary lover. I love seeing different paper types, fonts, colors, designs, etc.
For cookouts, informal parties, birthday parties I'm fine with evites although when we have children I'll most likely mail invites since not all of our family is computer savvy.