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discipline update

I feel like a failure today. I decided for my own sanity and anxiety, to re-enroll C in preschool a month earlier than planned. The last two days have involved throwing things, non stop yelling, etc. I am doing my best to remain calm and be consistent. The pedi yesterday said he thinks it's just a phase. I realize that the behavior problems won't go away overnight and it's going to take time, but at least this will give both of us a break during the day. It might not be so bad if I didn't have morning sickness and fatigue on top of high blood pressure and anxiety. I am stressed out all day and fear I'm jeopordizing my health and the babys.  I hope being back in the routine of school will help things some. He'll go back to his same class with the same teacher. I feel like I can't handle my own kid.

 Thanks for all of your support and advice.

Re: discipline update

  • YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE.  Period.  And everyone needs a break.  Please do not beat yourself up for this.  I think some time apart will do both of you a world of good.  Again, you are not a failure.

     

  • I have no real advice on the discipline issue but Harmony's right you're not a failure!  I am struggling with that feeling a lot lately (different issues but same feeling) so I know how hard that part is.  [[[HUGS]]] to you.
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  • The pp are right, you are NOT a failure. It is so easy for parents (especially moms) to feel this way. I get this same feeling from time to time (like when my little guy doesn't want to leave daycare to come home with me), but kids a quirky and we need to give oursleves a break.

    I can't imagine dealing with morning sickness, fatigue, and a toddler. You are doing really well in my book.

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  • if it makes  you feel better it is summer (i am off) but i have my sitter still....my boys are hefty 24 pound 18 month old and 40 pound 3 year old....i do go crazy when it is just the three of us.....take care of yourself and the baby.....
  • imagelonghorngal:
    if it makes  you feel better it is summer (i am off) but i have my sitter still....my boys are hefty 24 pound 18 month old and 40 pound 3 year old....i do go crazy when it is just the three of us.....take care of yourself and the baby.....

    I don't work and my kids are both enrolled in full time, year round programs. I am a better mother because of it. We all do what we have to. I can also say that Truitt (4.5 yo) is WAY better behaved when he has the solid routine that school offers him. And he loves it and is happy there. There is not one thing wrong with having your kid in school- especially when there are discipline issues. Structure and positive peer pressure are great for those rough patches with behavior.


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  • imagerayskit10:

     There is not one thing wrong with having your kid in school- especially when there are discipline issues. Structure and positive peer pressure are great for those rough patches with behavior.


    I was thinking this exactly!  Some babies and kids NEED and THRIVE on routine.  It sounds like in your case, by sending him back to school, you may be doing the BEST thing for him!  

     

    Don't be too hard on yourself... there is no easy answer to being mommy.  We all have to figure out what is best for our kids, our family, etc.  ((hugs)) 

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  • You are doing what is best for your son, your mental health, and the health of your baby. Good for you!
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