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Brandi
On your comment in the crockpot post I want you to know that I don't think you are being mean or anything. I totally get what you are saying and I love my DH but I don't think he gets it that when Peyton gets here things are going to be different and I won't and can't do everything. He has been amazing and has pretty much done everything around the house and I am thankful for that. He makes little comments and I don't know if he is kidding or not (like "you can start cooking now when she is here" or "you'll be getting up with her at night", etc). When he says stupid stuff like that I just tell him "Yeah right, you'll be getting off your butt and helping" I think he is just kidding because we kid all the time, but I don't know if I should take it seriously or not because I feel emotional a lot about things lately.
I do know that he will be stepping up and helping and if that means he has to get up during the night sometimes then he will be getting up during the night. I know he will help and he will be amazing, but I am going to make sure he helps as I know I can't do it all.
I do think I am going to go ahead and make some meals in advance and if he doesn't want to eat it then he can go to McDonald's. I figured I can freeze spaghetti sauce and then all he has to do is throw it in the pot and warm it up and cook noodles (he can do that). I am also going to look up freezer meals and see what is out there. That is a good idea about individual meals. There is a taco soup that I really like and it freezes well and he has eaten it before after I unthawed it and heated it up. I am going to approach it the way you said that I won't feel like doing much and at least the first month things are going to be crazy and I just can't be cooking and I really don't want to eat out everynight (him bringing it home) because we have done that since February and I rather not do that anymore.
I know he will be great and he will help out. I do need to get over the trying to please everyone and I need to do what I need to do. I am going to do some meals and like I said if he doesn't want it there is a McDonald's down the road.
Thanks girl!
Re: Brandi
I'm glad you aren't mad at me, I know I came off a little strong and especially hormonal, and I fretted over it all last night. But I didn't lie about a thing! Lol. It's going to be a reality check, albeit a wonderful and amazing one. I just know how hard it can be and every little thing you can do for yourself now you will thank yourself for. I have no doubt that G will stand up to the plate. What I was trying to get across is he isn't going to be the center of it all, nor will he be your priority for a little bit. You and Peyton are the priority. He should take a step back and realize that even though he has been through the same stuff as you emotionally, it isn't quite the same because you have done all the hard stuff. Drew makes snide little jokey comments too, and sometimes they aren't jokes, especially when reality hits and he finds he isn't getting his way. It's been a battle for me, and because of it I am lucky to get an hour here or an hour there. Otherwise it is non stop 24/7/365 mommy-wife duty for me (which 99% of the time I love, don't read me wrong here). But I get to feeling fried and frazzled and beyond lonely. I feel like I have no friends and feel even worse that my kid has no friends of his own, he only has me and his reality is about to be thrown up for a loop when Lane gets here (I have no idea how THAT'S all going to work out). I guess what I am doing, in essence, is trying to protect you from the same thing happening to you. It's not going to suck when you become a mommy, but it may be trying at first. And exhausting. Just help yourself out a bit beforehand
And FWIW, I would KILL for a McDonald's right down the road. But then again, I would also kill Drew if he went and wasted money on a regular basis that could go toward diapers or wipes or necessities because he was too picky to eat what I put on his plate, pre-prepared or not. When I became a mom, my priorities changed. His did not. And I still just may burn that boat
I would never get mad at you. You have always talked sense into me and God knows I need it a lot.
I am trying to prepare G for reality in 10 weeks because things will change and he is going to have to step up, which I truly believe he will.
Kellie gave me some websites and I am going to look at receipes and start working on meals.
Thanks for always being honest with me.