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Wedding Help - Iranian Wedding
I posted last week about needing to find a dress for an Iranian wedding... Well I still haven't found anything. DH finally just said to wear black dress pants and a nice top so hat's my fall back option. But I need some clarification.
The invitation says it starts at 6 however the groom (friend of ours) said to get there at 6:45 since the first hour is all praying. To me this is showing up late and I'd feel awkward walking in then. We've already been told it's going to be incredibly boring. What would you do?
Another question - the invite says no boxed gifts which basically means they want ONLY money. Can I still get a "traditional" wedding card (obviously not a religious one). I wanted to get them a gift card to bed bath and beyond but DH said no we'll give money. (he's lived at home all his life, has NO bills, and has a 6 figure income for the past 5 years)
Sorry for all the questions.
Re: Wedding Help - Iranian Wedding
of course you should still get a card and just put the $$ in it. If they say it's OK to show up late, then it's OK. Or you could skip the (boring) ceremony all together and just attend the FUN reception!
have a great time, I think it'll be a really fun wedding! (and by wedding I mean the reception)
Many Iranians are not Muslim
This is a very traditional Iranian wedding from what I've been told already. There is not going to be a "fun reception". It'll be weird because it's all toasts and speaches, no music, no dancing etc. I also have to be fully covered so trying to find a long dressy dress (maxi dresse's don't work on my figure) is impossible.
Interesting... I had a Persian wedding myself, and I've been to other Persian weddings, and there was always music, dancing, and a typical reception. There was no prayer or anything religious. I'm not sure what's going on at your wedding. If there's no "reception" and it's just a bunch of people praying, and you don't belong to their religion, I'd consider just sending a gift and not attending.
Oh, I know. She had earlier said in her dress post that there was no alcohol and dancing - that led me to believe that they were Muslim.
hmmm...I went to a Persian wedding and I thought the ceremony was really cool. It was all in Farsi but they had 'narrators' exclaiming what was happening in English.
It did actually start about an hour after the invite said but I just chalked this up to everything I had been to with this couple starting really, really late.
if they say to get there late, I would get there late. Also, I would just give money in a traditional wedding or congrats card. The GC idea might be more of a pain to them and it is basically forcing them to spend money at BBB.
LOL. I don't want to sound stereotypical or anything, but there is a phenomenon called "Persian time." Everything starts at least an hour later than what the invite says. Sometimes 2-3 hours later. I'm always late and it drives DH nuts. I tell him it's in my genes.
Yes, they joke about it too. 'We know the invitation says 6pm but everyone knows that really means 8pm.' Everyone knows that except my very punctual, former military husband who thinks one of these times they will show up on time. HA!
ha! We put down an earlier time on our invitation knowing that everyone (at least the Russians) would be late and told the officiant/photographer/etc the actual time)
LOL
My friends did this too!
True story: My parents almost missed Christmas dinner last year because they were an hour late to get to our house. I told them we were going to eat without them if they didn't show up at a reasonable hour.
I also sometimes fudge plane departure times when I'm getting a ride from my dad to the airport.
We're on Caribbean time in our house!
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