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petty vent
I'm irritated, and possibly shouldn't be. (I might delete this later, I'm easy to find online and therefore these people all are too.)
The short version is that the little dude's mom (LDM) can't uphold her part of their custody arrangement, and for the past 2 months, M has been up at 6am every Saturday with the little dude and his older sister, who is later picked up by her dad or stepmom.
It seems like they just need to change the schedule, but so far instead of saying that, LDM is calling him every Thursday or Friday for help, and we end up having to change or cancel weekend plans. Friday night and Saturday morning till noon is (supposed to be) the only grown-up time we get during the weekend, as M has the little dude from Saturday through Tuesday every week.
It's the last minute aspect of it that irritates me. LDM and I get along fine and there is no drama, and I know she's trying to find other options, but it's just not working. So on the one hand I totally understand her situation and would hope that if I were in her position, my child's father/grandparents would be supportive of me and work with me, especially if my family was 100 miles away, but on the other hand ... grr. It feels like instead of just talking to M and being honest about the situation she is starting to take advantage of him.
M is going to talk to her about it. I just needed to vent. And you guys can feel free to tell me if I'm being a brat. 
Re: petty vent
I think your frustration is reasonable. It's hard not to know what to expect, and maybe if it was like that every Saturday, it'd be one thing (like if he had full custody, you'd just figure it out), but it's annoying to have it change at the last minute every time and cancel your plans.
Thanks ladies. I don't want to sound like the wicked future stepmother. I really have nothing against LDM personally - she's been great to me about being involved with her kid's life. The bolded is exactly it. If he had full custody we'd have a consistent schedule, but not knowing till the last minute is getting old!
I don't blame you. I would be annoyed too!
Thanks for letting me vent ladies.
And as a follow up, she actually found someone this weekend to watch the kids in the morning. We still need to work on the schedule and possibly change it but it was a nice change!