Military Nesties
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Away from Home
Here is the situation: We are both in the military, but he is at home and I am deployed. I have been gone now for six months. When I went home on leave, he proposed. I was thrilled and happy. I couldn't help to say yes. But now I am buck about 3000 miles away, feeling lonely. Lonely because I don't hear from him. The only time he talks to me is when I call home, which isn't everyday. But I receive ample emails from everyone but him, and not even a letter or a card for my birthday. My parents, bless their hearts, have sent cards for the major holidays and email as often as they can. My sister, who is going to school for a nursing degree and a manager at major pizza joint, has found time to email more than him. I have brought up the situation multiple times, and he always says that he will try harder. It has been two weeks since that conversation and no communication still. What should I do???
Frenchee
Re: Away from Home
Something you wrote makes me wonder if you have doubts about the relationship, beyond his lack of communication. You wrote that you couldn't help but say yes. Were you surprised or torn by his proposal?
You ask, "What should I do?" Right now, nothing. Well, perhaps I would try one more time to let him know just how important it is that he communicate, by email and mail, on a regular and consistent basis. As a dual military couple, being separated will happen even more often than a relationship with just one service member. This is how your life is going to be. If he can't do this now, before you are married, he sure as hell isn't going to be any better once married. Goodness, imagine him trying to juggle the house, bills, kids and pets--and email and mail you. Personally, I would explain one last time what you need from him. Be clear. Then, if he is not able to step-up, I would likely be done. Much easier for me to say though. . . Good luck.
Smudge's Mom had good advice. Also, if I were you I would change your screen name. In your siggy you list your first name, and I assume your last name is in your screen name. That's a PERSEC violation. Better to be safe than sorry.
Hope your FI starts communicating more, and stay safe on your deployment!
You mentioned he was also military and even though it doesnt give him a pass but they could be doing long work hours or out in the field or other things of that nature. Being dual military you guys are going to have to figure out a system that works for both of you.
I would try to talk to him about it again. I know that's not exactly the easiest thing being deployed but like a PP said, this will be your life and you have to figure out how to make it work for the both of you.