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Vent - I just need to get this out (Long)
I might ramble, so forgive me.
DH is taking M to IC today to visit his family. That is all fine and good since they won't ever leave town to come and visit us (which is really fine with me), but the problem is my SIL. Last summer she DISTROYED my relationship with DH's DD who is in her 20's by filling her head with lies and twisitng a lot of information that this child didn't need to have any knowledge of. I have worked for 10 years to try and piece together a relationship with this child and IT HAS BEEN A STRUGGLE to say the least, which is widely known in the family. She is a noisy, jealous, gossip with no friends and no hobbies, she is ALWAYS right and never takes anyone else's feeling into account...hince she has no friends.
So finally for the sake of my DH, this spring I called her (I am NEVER one to make the 1st move when I am in the right, never. Yes, I am stubborn, it's not news. Everyone I know was shocked as he!! that I made the 1st move but something needed to be done) and told her that for the sake of DH I wanted to try and work through this. She took no responsibility for anything and try to pin everything on me, again, she is never in the wrong. Needless to say the conversation did not end well, but I tried. DH was there when I called and was frustrated that she didn't own up to anything but I did my part and washed my hands.
MIL was in the hospital a month or two ago and so we all went to IC to visit her (nothing serious) and of course SIL, her husband and thier DD were there, I said "Hi" and that was it.
A little bit of back story and no flames please, this is our situation and by no means am I passing judgment on anyone else's very personal situation. I used to get along with my SIL great, we had a really good relationship for 9 years and then I got pregnant. They were unable to have a child and adopted a little girl about 4 years ago. So, when I got pregnant ALL I got were snide comments. I took them with a grain of salt, understanding that it had to be tough for her, but now it's snowballed out of control. I really feel that the corner was turned when I was pregnant and she can't seem to get beyond it. I don't know how else to explain her behavior, honestly, nothing else has happened between us. There have never been any other falling outs or anything.
If she cannot show me the respect that I deserve as a human, then I feel that she has no right to see my daughter. So, with DH taking DD to IC today, I know that they will see her. I have asked him not to take her to their house and he says that he needs to see his family. I am all for DH going there and seeing them, I don't care, but I don't want DD to mix with such a spiteful, hateful person.
UGH, I am so sick of this sh!t...OK, Vent over. Thanks.
Re: Vent - I just need to get this out (Long)
I'm sorry K!
Hopefully, DH won't have to take the extra effort to take M to see his sister. I mean if she REALLY wants to see Miss M, then she needs to go to him, not the other way around. To me that's like adding gas to the fire, because she's not making an effort.
I hope your day gets better and M loves her mommySO much that she probalby won't like Auntie Mean Lady!
::HUGS TO YOU::
Family drama stinks... sorry you're dealing with this.
Hopefully you can just look forward to hugs & kisses from DH & DD when they get home tonight...