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Interesting Book
http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504763_162-20013012-10391704.html
Hmmmm, well, what do you think?
Re: Interesting Book
They were talking about this same book this morning on Kidd Kraddick. I think once we start assuming all husbands will cheat and need to be negotiated with we have lost the core of the idea of marriage and are in a bad, bad place.
I would like to think both DH and I can trust each other enough not to have to negotiate infiedelity. This may be naive in her eyes, but if I wanted to negotiate a relationship in which we could screw around on each other, I woudn't have married and just would have kept up my slutty streak in college.
ETA: In my brain rot TV time last night I also watched True Life: I'm a Sugar Baby. I am surrounded by this subject! LOL.
I was sleeping when they were discussing this. Glorious sleep! However, I did steal this from Kidd and I did think it was interesting.
I agree, Leslie. There's no reason to get married, in my opinion. However, there are people who I guess do this IRL.
One of Bill's friends tried to have an open marriage. The guy started having fun time with the other girl all the time, the wife got mad and divorced him and he's now shacking up with the other girl. I think she's about 15 years younger than him.
"...And he just came out of my imaginary birthday cake." -its apelila
I think this is well beyond ridiculous and will not waste the energy to step on my soap box right now.
When I opened the link, my first thought was, "This chick looks like a knock off version of Charlotte from SATC."
Leslie- I saw that True Life on Sunday and DH watched it last night. No offense, but didn't you wonder why the "Sugarbabies" weren't better looking??? When the guy looking for Cougs came on, DH said, "I am pretty sure a rich Coug wants a better looking dude than that!"
LOL.
Darn, I was looking for entertainment instead of doing more laundry. Guess I'll go do the laundry now.
I actually thought it was her that did this book. That is until I read past the pic and 'author'.
I'm with Tiffany. I think the whole idea is disgusting and went away from the page after the first paragraph. To me, it's laughable that someone like this even gets attention and is not even worthy of a discussion. (No offense to you, Julie. I don't listen to Kidd anymore but I can't see how you make a whole discussion out of this on the radio. To me, it's a non-issue.)
With All the Trimmings
Just do it!
I think it's pretty ridiculous. Some men may be designed to cheat - those are the ones designed to never get married
They were talking on the radio about one arrangement where you know ahead of time - that would be a bajillion times worse than not knowing, or knowing after the fact - because then you're just sitting around thinking about it while it's actually happening. SICK. And sad.
YES! I was thinking that there had to be better looking shallow people. Maybe that's why they weren't very successful. If they had been super-hot they wouldn't have had such trouble.
What about the girl who didn't want to sleep with the guy but wanted thousands? I'm sorry but you aren't cute, the conversation seemed sucky, you aren't smart...what else but doing it do you have to offer this man?!? I don't condone hooking but jeez - you gotta "bring the heat!" LOL
Also - the guy was completely gross and his pick-up lines were so corny. I loved it when he tried to give her the bill at the end and she was like...uh, I just lost my job!
I love True Life so much for gems like this.
Also - It seems we must watch the same crappy TV. Haha!
I agree with you ladies. Why get married if you still get to live the "single" life. The point of marriage is to be faithful to your spouse. If you or your spouse has the option to cheat how is that being faithful?
Plus to be honest I'd be hurt knowing DH was out there doing what we did to make a child with someone else. That is reserved to husband and wife. I had a bit of a wild past but there is something different about it being husband and wife and I think giving DH the option to cheat ruins what the true meaning is.
I think this woman is nuts to be completely honest!
ITA with this. Also, I thought her quotes in that article were pretty insulting. Like all men are children with no impulse control (insulting to men), or worse, that wives aren't fulfilling their husband's desires so they have to seek it elsewhere (insulting to both).
I do agree that lots of people have impulses to stray, as well as to do any number of things they shouldn't, either morally or lawfully. Most can (and hopefully do) quell those impulses. I don't think the answer is to say it's okay to do those things, just because some/all may have some level of natural tendency to do them.
I'm not saying it's not OK for people that actually want that kind of relationship (open, I mean). I don't get it, but hey, whatever works for them. But I don't like her trying to convince all couples that this is the way to be. It's not.
LOL me too. The other night we were at dinner with friends and DH told some stupid story from when he was younger and he was out on some country road with his girlfriend trying to get some and his dad had to come jump off his car because he had killed it with the radio. It was kind of uncomfortable for me to listen to since his brother was there and they went into detail about how "smoking hot" and "fast and loose" old girl was.
DH was giving me a hard time about being weirded out and my BFF said, "Leslie, I feel like you could smoke him in the old good times stories - want to tell us the one about the camping section of D!ck's?" (Do not judge - I was a self admitted slutty girl back then and I kind of don't regret it!)
DH and BIL promptly shut up about "smoking hot country road girl" LOL!
There you go Julie, not fired up, just overshare entertainment
Glad I'm not the only one with a "wild" past. I don't regret it but I can't EVER talk about it to DH. He was with his ex for 10 years on and off and he had a few gfs in high school and 2 after the ex. If I remember his stories correctly he didn't lose his until he was 18 and he started dating ex when he was 19 and from little stories I overhear when the boys are talking DH was the "calm" one of the fraternity so I just look really bad. He has made a few comments about stories he hears and I usually don't say anything because I've usually been there, done that.
I almost slipped up one day and told an embarrassing story that he would have not liked about me at all. It sucks that I have to be kinda ashamed of my past with him but in reality I'm not ashamed at all and I'm glad I had the "experiences" I had. I learned alot about myself and I wouldn't trade that!
Yeah, the "bring the heat" bit was AWESOME!
I thought the exact same thing.
I agree with Tiffany and Stephie. This is absurd and makes me sick. We watched "Hall Pass" the other night and it was pretty much the same theory. I felt disturbed pretty much the whole movie. YUCK.
This whole concept is just wrong. Just like that dating website for married people.
I agree this is ridiculous and maybe I am naive but I dont ever think it would be in Matts personality to even begin to be okay with this. For goodness sake I cant even get him to go to a strip club because according to him it just doesnt interest him. Most of my wild stories from the past aggrivate him pretty badly.
Re: True Life
I watched that episode and the girl wanting everything for nothing was a joke. I actually really liked the sugar daddy because at least he told it like it was, when he said lets be honest I am in this relationship for a specific reason and so are you, I loved that moment.