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Throat punching is all fun and games until...
it?s your DD on the receiving end!
She has a little friend C in class who has something going on with her ? I?m not sure WHAT it is. She is normally really sweet but lately has been physically aggressive and Maddie is getting the bulk of it. Last week she poked Maddie in the eye (reached out with her finger and straight up poked her) because she wanted Maddie to stop playing with another girl, K.
Yesterday K dumped a big pile of mulch on C on the playground and ran and played with Maddie. When they got inside, Maddie sat by C in circle time and she just straight up throat punched her twice. When asked why, she said it was because K dumped mulch on her on the playground.
It seems to me that she is jealous of Maddie?s friendship with K. C and K have been friends for a long time but K only goes to their school in the summer, not the school months.
But Maddie was complaining over the weekend that E, J, C, R, Mi, and A (the other girls in class) don?t want her to play with K and even push her and pull her to keep her away from K. Maddie feels badly that K would have to play alone and she said, ?Mommy that is bullying, and we don?t do bullies at [insert school name].? It was really sweet and compassionate, but she was so upset by it she cried. So I called the director yesterday to tell her about the conversation and then went to pick her up to find out all that happened during the day.
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- Paula Deen to 104.1 KRBE's Producer Eric 9/17/2011
Re: Throat punching is all fun and games until...
Aw, poor Maddie! What a tough position for her to be in. Abbie goes through the same stuff daily at school. Talk to the director and the teacher and see if they will address the class as a whole. When this got out of hand in Abbie's class, the teacher stepped in and talked to the entire class about it.
They have what they call a "welcome rule." Everyone is welcome to play at all times. If you are playing a game and someone else comes up, they should be welcome to come play the game you're playing. If they come up and want to try to change the game and play something else then you kindly say, we are going to keep playing ____, but you may play with us if you'd like.
Seems like Maddie knows the right thing to do. I told Abbie that when her friends act that way to tell them, "I'm going to play with ____ because they are my friend. If you are mean to them or me then I won't play with you because I only play with nice friends."
Collin Thayne 10.11.2010
I wish. I was floored when we had to deal with this kind of stuff in Kindergarten. Little girls can be vicious.
Collin Thayne 10.11.2010
Yep. And it just gets worse when the hormones come into the picture!
We had our first encounter with it in the 3's class. I too was floored that it would start so early.
We had our first encounter in the 3s class too. It's the same group of girls as well so it perpetuates itself. I just melted inside a little bit when i heard my baby girl say, "Mommy I got throat punched." Wha??
- Paula Deen to 104.1 KRBE's Producer Eric 9/17/2011
It's stuff like this that further confirms why I don't like the whole "BFF"/cliques/exclusionary play that is promoted by some these days.....because you never know when your child is going to be on the receiving end of it.
Ayers, I really like the welcome rule concept.
- Paula Deen to 104.1 KRBE's Producer Eric 9/17/2011