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Pregnant and Interviewing--When to tell
I am just 7 weeks pregnant and in the final phases of a long interview process that began back in May (before I conceived). I am hoping to get a response by the end of this week. IF I do receive an offer, should I tell them now about the pregnancy to avoid surprises down the road? The reason why I'd wait to tell is that it is still VERY early in the pregnancy (we haven't even told close family at this point; seeing the dr for the first time next week).
I am also generally unsure about working full-time during the pregnancy and definitely afterwards--it will be a longer commute making it more difficult to juggle with my first LO. I would love to accept a more part-time position, but not sure if that's something that is appropriate it to suggest when discussing an offer. Any advice????
Re: Pregnant and Interviewing--When to tell
The best time to bring it up is after they make you a formal offer for the job, but before you accept it.
You will likely need to negotiate time off for maternity leave, since you will not qualify for FMLA. You might need to negotiate for time off to go to doctor's appointments, since you might not have a lot of time off to begin with.
If they offer you a full time job and that's not what you want, try to negotiate that before accepting the job; once you accept the job, you have no power to negotiate, so you either deal with it or quit. Though, I'm going to be honest.........you must know by now whether they are trying to fill a full-time or part-time position. If I was trying to fill a full-time position in a process that took 3 months, and when I extended an offer the person told me that they only wanted to work part-time, I'd be pissed that I had wasted so much time on a moron that apparently didn't pay attention to anything that was discussed over the last 3 months.....I wouldn't negotiate that item, and I'd be forever biased towards that person if they accepted the job.
As for the full time part, maybe I'm just not getting it, but why wouldn't you be able to work full time during pregnancy? Is the job for a boulder lifter? Most women who are working full time don't quit their jobs when they become pregnant and are able to manage fine. And I think it's a little premature to be overly concerned for after the baby is born at this point in time when you're not even holding a job offer in hand and don't know exactly what your work/home life balance is going to entail.