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MIL Dilemma
My MIL calls my daughter Jul-ya rather than Ju-li-a. It is driving me nuts!!!! When I am around her I say her name like 1,000 times hoping she will get the hint, but it's been 6 months and it's not happening. How do I politely tell her she is saying her name wrong?
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Re: MIL Dilemma
I would probably just correct her nicely. To be honest though, my name is Julia (Ju-li-a) and a lot of people call me Jul-ya (usually older people. maybe it's a generational thing?) and Juli-er (which is actually correct for most Bostonians!) At this point, the only time I mention anything is when people call me Julie.
Julia ...good family friends call me "Mariaer"...guess where they are from?
Rachel..I have a group of cousins who I only see once a year and they call me "Marie." (Nothing wrong with the name Marie, but its not my name)Drives me NUTS! I thinking Julia would appreciate you trying to nip this in the bud now. However, since it is your MIL -- I really think this is something your DH needs to address..what does he say?
That said, I don't think she's doing it to be mean or wrong. Like Julia the adult said, it is probably just a generational thing.
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I agree that she isn't doing it to be mean or be wrong. I just don't think she knows that she is saying it wrong.
DH agrees that she is saying it wrong, but he doesn't think it is a big deal. It's just one of those things that gets under my skin each time I hear it.
That's another thing that drives me nuts! Luckily we don't have anyone close to us that does this.
When I see Julia, I think Jul-ya. I've never heard it pronounced any other way, so it may be regional. Your MIL may be in the same boat I am. I doubt she even realizes she's pronouncing it different than you are. I would say it's not that big a deal, but I have a daughter named Kristian and it drives me nuts that most people will call her Kristin.
Strangers saying it wrong can be ignored, but your MIL should say it right. It should be done in the most lighthearted way possible so she won't feel embarrassed. Just let her know in a really non-angry tone that it's bothering you. You can let her know that you're aware that some people do pronounce it Jul-ya, but that you and DH would prefer it be pronounced Ju-li-a.
This made me chuckle because my mom was like this about my name. 99.9% of people call me Britt-knee. She tried and tried to get people to pronouce the A in my name... BrittAny... making it sound more like Britt-UH-knee. The only people I have ever heard pronounce it that way are people with a British accent (Autralians and Africans included).
I'd also say Jul-ya and I don't think I've ever heard it said the way you say it, meaning it could be a regional thing.
Basically, good luck if the rest of the world doesn't pick up on your translation of the pronunciation. If it's just your MIL, though, when it happens again, I'd just say, "How'd you just say that? Oh, that's funny that you say it different than we do. MIL, it's not Jul-ya, it's Ju-li-a." I'd just be offhanded about it, and not like I was being annoyed with it. She may honestly not hear the difference unless it's pointed out to her.
I have no words of advice because when I say Ju-Lee-Ah, it comes out like Jul-yuh. Like, I'm saying all the sounds, but I'm not over exaggerating any of them. It probably wouldn't bother me much.
You could just be like, "I'm embarrassed I've let this go so long, but we really wanted her name to be pronounced..."
Although, I don't really think it's that big of a deal. A lot of family calls me Katie. My Dad's side of the family calls my sister (Laura) either Laurie or Lordy. It's not intentional... you just can't correct everyone forever. We know our names and know family loves us very much... even if the name isn't quite right, lol.
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