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Birth date scheduled today
So, the big day is...... (drum roll please) August 20th. After spending the last 7 months trying to beg my doctors into trying naturally, both agreed it would just be too dangerous. Not sure that I agree, but VBAC's aren't that popular around here and I think they just use scare tactics to freak women into having another section once they have had one. If they want a scare tactic, let them sit in my brain for memories of my last one and they just may change their mind. =(
I'm not telling many people what the day is, because in the event I get drugged to the hilt again, I want to make sure I get out of my drug induced/amnesia filled haze enough to REMEMBER being meeting my son, and being the 1st other than dr's and DH to hold him. That set me back bad last time when my 1st memory after Bug was born was a roomful of people and a MIL who wouldn't let me meet my child, no matter how much I asked. It's just very important to me, although maybe a little selfish, but this is my last chance to make these memories, and it saddens me enough how it went the first go round. It really put a burden on my bonding process with Bug, and I just don't want that again.
Just needed to tell someone!!! It's been killing me all day that the only person that knows is my sister and DH. =/ Now, the goal is just to stay calm and focused! I CAN DO THIS!!!
Re: Birth date scheduled today
ok..here's a plan...back your and bug's s#!t, I'll take you to my doc, y'all can stay here, you can VBAC, no one will get in your way, I take care of bug, u and the baby while you recover before sending y'all back to florida....deal? when do you get here?
Good luck, Brandi!! You CAN do this!!
I think it's a great idea not to tell anyone else when the big day is. I vote that you don't even tell anyone when you're heading to the hospital. Once the baby's here, then your H can make the phone calls.
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Aw, I would be upset too if my MIL was holding my baby before me. That is not selfish at all. Well hopefully this time since it is a scheduled thing, hopefully you won't need to be drugged that much. I would make sure that you request that if possible you get as few drugs as medically necessary.
When I talked about my birth plan with my docs, I specifcially asked them if one of my hands could be free and not tied down (per the policy) should I need to have a section. My doc said as long as I didn't grab his a$$, that it shouldnt be a problem.
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I don't blame you for not telling people. Like Mel said hopefully since it is scheduled you won't be drugged too much.
I would be ticked too if others got to hold my baby before I did. I told G that we are not having anyone in the room and we will not have people come in for at least 30 minutes to an hour after baby is born so that we have time with her.
One more month!
I just about wet my pants laughing!!!! HAHAHAHAHA!
be there soon
sounds like a great deal to me!
Just to clear it up, they gave me Verset when I was on the OR table to calm my panic attack. It's an amnesia drug. Apparently I held Chase and met Chase right after the surgery, but didn't remember it, so the first memory I have after everything (about 7 hrs) was MIL holding my child and not letting me meet him. I remember asking at least 3 times... AND she bottle fed him before I met him (in my memory) or even had a chance to try to BF. No one, including myself, knew I wasn't going to remember, or that I had amnesia from the drugs, but it still shot that 1st day (and 1st couple of weeks) to heck in a hand basket. It made me very angry and I just lost touch and didn't care. The plan on this one is to have the baby on Saturday, then take visitors on Sunday. Just to be on the safe side, you know? I want to make sure I am coherent when Bug meets his brother... NOT a memory I want to forget!!! And holding my son is another. Maybe I won't be such a nervous nelly this time, and I have been seeing a therapist about relaxation techniques for the surgery for 7 months now. The good thing about this hospital I am birthing at this time is it is a completely separate ward. If I say no visitors... no visitors. If I say every one but such and such can come... same applies. It's a locked/security filled building and visitors must be buzzed in. Hehehehehe.... I could be REALLY evil
I don't plan on letting anyone know when I am going in, but who knows as the day gets closer. I just may have to make a point to say ok, if baby is born this day, visitors can come the next or wait until I get settled in at the house. SO FAR, DH is on board, but he does his own thing when he wants so we'll see. I don't want to say no visitors completely, because, hey... visitors are nice! Especially at such a special time! BUT... I am determined for this to go better than the last birth experience and if it means I have to pull out my inner witch... so be it!
It's not like said MIL drives 4 miles to come and visit more than 2x a year, or like she picks up the phone to call to check in. And sadly, she is the only one I really don't want to visit, period. The thought of her sitting on her high horse, holding a child she will have nothing to do with, acting like she is the world's greatest grandmother in front of the people that truly care and spend time loving and getting to know my kids just ticks me off. It's all a facade and it makes no sense to me how she thinks and functions.... ::sigh:: I can't begin to tell you how much I have tried the last 2 years, but you know what? I can only hit a brick wall so many times before I finally say, 'ouch, that hurts... not gonna do that again.'