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Story book #2 - You think your MIL is CrAzY? sorry- long again
I'm back with more entertaining stories... And just to be clear, I'm not actually looking for advice as these are all past issues that have long been handled. I'm just posting stories as suggested by fellow readers purely for entertainment. Sorry its so long, I was trying to group all the wedding ones together. I'll try to keep future posts shorter!
Here are a few more stories back from our wedding time-
1. When we informed them of the place of our destination wedding, CrAzY tried to convince H that I chose a place that was an 8 hour drive from the airport (it was 45 min) and that was not do-able for anyone so we should just call off the wedding because how could he marry someone that expected that out of her family. Yes, we were gonna fly 3 hours from Chicago to Florida but then drive 8 hours to get to the hotel from the airport. H's response: "If you don't like our plans, don't come. The only people who's attendance matters is Wine and myself."
2. A few days later when we booked air fare and H & I informed his family I found this great deal and they should take advantage of this sale. CrAzY says she "just can't afford" the $55 plane tickets I found. H's response to this: "If this is another attempt to get me to cancel this wedding, it won't work. Wine and I will be getting married with or without your presence and quite frankly we don't care either way." BIL was there for this conversation and offered to lend her the money and literally pulled out a wad of money and handed her the cash right then. She about died. We knew she had the $ but wouldn't be called on her bluff in front of everyone. I had put everyone's tickets on hold and so she booked plane tickets and then hotel without further "issues" and that was the last we heard a peep from her re the wedding.
3. However, she decided to really latch onto BIL. About a month before the wedding, CrAzY cancelled xSIL's airline ticket to wedding and paid 3x the amount of the initial tickets (the ones she couldn't afford) to change hers, FIL's and BIL's tickets so that xSIL couldn't afford to re-book in the case that BIL/xSIL were to make up. She didn't even tell BIL she was gonna do this but he didn't ever voice an opinion after she did.
(Quick fill in here: BIL was dating xSIL at this time but they always had an up & down relationship due to MIL's over-involvement and BIL's "bad" ways. BIL & xSIL got into it one night and BIL called his mommy, MIL got involved and went over to BIL's place, packed up xSIL's sh!t and told her to get the F out. BIL allowed this as his mom makes most decisions for him but continued to sleep with xSIL behind MIL's back and then got her pregnant later on which is why I have a N and there are more stories with her.)
4. CrAzY was seen and heard pacing around the bar minutes before the wedding and she was saying to herself: "I cant go through with this, I just cant go through with this, I cant do it." Over and over. We have no idea what this was about but then during the ceremony she was sobbing really loudly. Like, I just saw my dog get hit my a car and die and I cant breath sobbing. She'd stop to inhale a huge breath every few minutes and then let it belt out all over again. I was actually cracking up every time I looked at her. As was everyone else.
And lastly - A story from Sunday. This happened to xSIL, not me... So for you ladies considering having a child with a mommys boy... think twice.
N was with BIL this weekend and Sun night they were at MIL's swimming. BIL also had a ton of friends over so who knows if this kid was even being supervised as MIL was drunk herself. Well N falls and cuts his eye badly enough they cant get the bleeding to stop so they take him to the ER. Does anyone call xSIL and inform her of the situation?? NO. And why not? We can only assume because MIL didn't want her there as she wanted to "play mommy" to N. Sure, I get that kids fall, get hurt, yada yada. But this was his first injury bad enough to go to the ER so his mom should've gotten a call so she could be there. No one in H's family has even told us this happened, I heard it from xSIL. I do know MIL called H yesterday to inform him of N's upcoming bday party (that is of course at her house). If this happened under xSIL's watch, EVERYONE would know and she would be bashed for not being a good mother. But when the story does come out in front of us, I'm sure it will be "oh, these things just happen to boys".
Re: Story book #2 - You think your MIL is CrAzY? sorry- long again
My 9-5'er day really brightens with your hilarious stories. Thanks for sharing!
Are we allowed follow-up questions?
The part about cancelling the tickets and re-booking is a little confusing. I get that she's CrAzY and all ... but did she cancel everyone's ticket and re-book at 3x the price ... except for xSIL ... with the goal of excluding xSIL because the cost would be too high? Again, I get the CrAzY part but how did she explain that she cancelled everyone's tickets???
If there was a contest on who had the worst MIL - You win.
If there was a contest on who can handle major problems with grace - You win.
Keep the stories coming. I am so relieved that I found a great H who isn't a momma's boy by any means - and a MIL who has learned to cut the apron strings.
She didn't cancel everyone's tickets, just xSIL's. She then changed hers, FIL and BIL to fly on a completely different schedule, changing the days she was traveling to a shorter trip. Instead of flying We-Mo, they were going Th-Su. She claimed she couldn't get that much time off work any longer. The airline charged her the difference of the new flight schedule, which was an additional like $630.00 for the 3 tickets. So the tickets she initially paid $55 pp each way for, were now like $160 each way pp.
She had originally called in payment for all 4 of those tickets since BIL gave her the cash. That was how she had BIL/xSIL's confirmation number. What she didn't realize was that since I set up the tickets under a wedding group and put them on hold so they could just call in the payment, my email address was the contact so I received an update with the pricing when she did it.
Sorry if it was confusing. I was trying to keep the story as short as possible but its hard sometimes explaining her actions because they are so bizarre!!!!
Wow.... Just to make you feel better, when DH and I decided to get married in Italy (just the two of us there with a party after we returned) my MIL asked if she could go with us....I live with CrAzy too! Your posts make me feel better knowing I am not the only one dealing with this crap.