WWYD re: thank you cards

BlinkingLight1 · July 2011

What would you think if you gave someone a gift (shower, birthday, whatever...) and they didn't write you a thank you card? Would you care? Be offended? Vow to never buy them another gift again? Stick out tongue

amidavey06 · July 2011

I'm not a huge stickler on thank you notes. I guess it depends on how close I am to the person. If I wasn't close to the person, but went out my way to get them a nice gift then I would be offended if I didn't get a thank you card. But if we were close and I talked to that person frequently than I wouldn't mind so much.

amandajean_8807 · July 2011

I'm not a huge stickler on thank you cards either. I enjoy getting them, but I am just fine with a verbal thank you. I have only written than you cards for wedding gifts and graduation gifts. I'm sure I will write them for baby gifts too (when the time comes).

kayleeb · July 2011

I probably wouldn't ever notice if I didn't receive a thank you card. I'm fine with just a verbal thank you. I think thank you cards are nice and I enjoy getting them, but I never really expect to get them.

Steven&Jamie · July 2011

If the gift was for a baby shower or wedding shower and I didn't get a TY card I would be annoyed/offended. DH's cousin never sent us a TY card for the wedding shower gift we gave them and I'm not gonna lie--it annoys me. However, for things like a birthday or holiday I don't expect a TY card--in my "circle" it's common to just do them for showers.

fuzzylogic · July 2011

I don't really pay attention. Honestly, after I've given someone a gift, I often forget that I even gave it to them in the first place, unless I was somehow proud of the gift that I got them (searched high and low, very personal/special, etc.).

I like to see people's smiles and reactions to the gift, not read some forced gratitude in print.

So no, I would not be offended, upset, or even care.

speedysari · July 2011

I've often wondered about why people give/enjoy getting thank you cards. We sent them out to everyone after our wedding shower, and I didn't mind doing it, but I do think it's kind of stupid. "Thanks for a gift, here's a nicely decorated piece of paper for your trashcan." A verbal "thank you" is always appreciated, but I wish we'd do away with thank you cards.

stripesandspots · July 2011

I get offended if I don't receive a thank you card for a shower or wedding gift. If I gave Snowful a tea kettle for her birthday and gave it to her over lunch (just as an example), I would not expect a thank you note from her.

Most of the gifts I have given are wedding gifts - you go to Bed Bath and Beyond, pick the gift, and they send it. You don't see the person opening the gift, in fact, you really don't know if they have received it. So, a thank you card is a nice acknowledgement that the gift has been received and that you liked it. A lack of acknowledgement, in this instance, is pretty tacky.

gingerfeathers · July 2011

I get offended if I don't get thank you cards when I give people wedding gifts. That drives me crazy.

For birthday gifts though and other things like that, it doesn't bother me too much.

SunnyDaze31 · July 2011

As long as I receive verbal or email thanks for the gift, I'm happy. Part of it is just the acknowledgement that they received the gift, so I'm not left wondering if it got lost in the mail. I don't necessarily see the need for a hand written thank-you note. It's a waste of paper since I'll spend 10 seconds reading it before I dispose of it.

amanjay · July 2011

I ALWAYS send them. I don't care at all whether I receive them or not. It's very much appreciated, like Stripes said, if I don't know if they got the gift or not. If I know they got it, I never think twice about it.

OULaw03 · July 2011

I think it's a little lame to not receive one. Unfortunately it's become common. I have not received thank you cards for about the past 6 or 7 events (birthdays, weddings, baby showers) and it's starting to tick me off. Rude. Granted, I try to cut some slack for a new mom or newlywed, but I haven't even gotten an acknowledgement a year later on some of these. If you are going to have a big ol registry and I get you a gift, at least acknowledge it. Sometimes when I mail a gift and don't get a thank you card, I worry that they didn't receive it.

Dannyand Allison · July 2011

I wouldn't be offended but if I send you a gift I NEED to know you received it. But a verbal ty/email/fb post will do the trick. A simple hey we got your toaster in the mail today and we thank you. Just because I get a delivery email confirmation from Fed-ex doesn't mean someone didn't steal it off the front porch, ykwim?

jesseandbri · July 2011

I am all about the thank you's. I do get annoyed if people don't send a TY unless I have seen the recipient open the gift (and even sometimes if I do see them). I just think it is nice to take the 10 seconds to write a little note. I think TYs should be sent for everything not including birthdays. However, I will say that B will send TYs for her birthday gifts as a child too.... I think it just helps seal the gracious "we are thankful for everything we get, no matter how big or small" mentality.

BlinkingLight1 · July 2011

Good input!

I think I agree with a couple of you who said if I see you open the gift, I don't care if I get a thank you card... but if I mail you a gift it'd be nice to be acknowledged. I definitely think a "thank you for my gift" at the end of a shower is appropriate and a TY card (for me) isn't necessary. I don't mind writing them at all .... but it was just something I was thinking about. It's nice to get TY cards in the mail, but then I feel like I have to keep them or save them and I feel bad throwing them away (but I still do).

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