How to get the spark back?

softy22 · July 2011

My Husband and I had a our baby boy January 11. He was 5 weeks early. So our adjustment came quick. My time is spent between work and caring for my son. I don't know how to make my husband realized how much this takes out of me. I have neglected my husband. I didn't intend to. We have tried date nights. They work for those hours and then things go back to the same old. Our son has not been sleeping well for me the last couple of nights. So it is really taking a toll. My interest in sex has practically disappeared. I am so tired and sleeping is the only thing I want to do when I go to bed. I feel horrible for not being intimate with my husband. Any ideas??? Please help.

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TarponMonoxide · July 2011

I would sit him down and tell him exactly what you have told us.

He should have no problem with that at all.

Can you get somebody to watch the kiddo while you and he get a couples' night out? Maybe even take the baby for the weekend and you and he have a fun and inexpensive "lock in" at your apartment?

HotDish! · July 2011

I know how you feel. After my second child I felt overwhelmed and depressed. Neither of our children sleep very well so we get little sleep and DH and I don't spend much time together. Like the other poster said, you need to sit himm down and tell him honestly how you feel. Continue date nights and try to spend time together each evening, even if it's just sitting on the couch together watching tv. My DH and I always feel much closer after we spend a couple hours in the evening when the kids are in bed chatting. It does get better, your son is still very young. If your lack of sex drive bothers you see your Dr as there are many ways to get it back. Good luck,.

TarponMonoxide · July 2011

How about doing things that you and he plain ole enjoy doing together?

Go back to some of those activities. The main thing is it's things you can do together. Intimacy is much more than rubbing bellies in the bedroom.:)

If you and he didn't have any activities, some I can suggest: cooking together, taking walks, reading a book and then discussing it, a co-ed sport/activity, volunteering and that's to name a few.

jadeorchid21 · July 2011

TarponMonoxide:
I would sit him down and tell him exactly what you have told us.

He should have no problem with that at all.

Can you get somebody to watch the kiddo while you and he get a couples' night out? Maybe even take the baby for the weekend and you and he have a fun and inexpensive "lock in" at your apartment?

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believeown · July 2011

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