July 2010 Weddings
saisongbird
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RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
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Anniversary question
I was wondering if anyone else ran up against this issue:
All three sets of parents have asked to spend time with us on our anniversary, and we're like HELL NO. We've made excuses to all of them and have offered to spend time with them at some point during the week.
Is it just me, or does that feel incredibly invasive of them? Our anniversary is celebrating OUR marriage. Yes I get that we're only children and they want to celebrate with us, but I (and thankfully, DH is on the same page here) feel that our wedding is the birth of OUR family, and especially for the first one, we should be able to celebrate it privately.
Thoughts?
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
Re: Anniversary question
No way, I am not spending my anniversary with anyone else.
That said, I would approach it tactfully. Say thanks for the offer, maybe we could have a celebratory dinner in a few days, but we would like to celebrate our first anniversary privately.
On a related note, my mom asked what we would like as an anniversary gift. What??? I wasn't expecting anything and didn't know what to say. At this point, I don't even think DH is getting me anything. Anyone else get this question from family?
Good luck.
nope, no way.
I was a little perturbed when I came home from work and my house was filled with all of our friends... Not happy I had to be at work, but I didn't get any alone time with DH.
We were not asked this question, but we did receive cards with checks in them. I think my parents gave us $30, my one set of grandparents gave us $50, and my other set gave us $5 (lol- that's what she puts in all of our cards for every holiday). We also received a card from a family friend of H's with a $25 restaurant gift card (which was a surprise- we weren't even expecting a card from them at all, especially given their financial situation). We also received other cards that were just congratulations and well wishes. We weren't expecting any of that. My family it's common to send cards for all anniversaries but I guess only the first gets a gift. But it made H mad at his mom because she didn't get us a card at all- and normally she's the one who yells at us because we don't exchange cards between H and I at all for holidays like V day and Sweetest Day and that upsets her for whatever reason.
Luckily we weren't asked, but there is no way that I'd be spending my FIRST anniversary with anyone but my DH.
As for a gift - MIL gave us a gift, nothing big, just an insulated bag to carry food in. It's super cut and I always make buffalo dip to take to places so this has it's own little dish in the bottom and then all the chips, etc can fit on the top.
I wouldn't be too offended if someone asked, but I would want to spend (at least the majority) alone with H. It worked out great for us this year- we were leaving for vacation the day of our anniversary, so I asked his mom/her boyfriend and my dad/his girlfriend, as well as my MOH and her boyfriend if they wanted to come over the night before to share our anniversary cake, since I knew we wouldn't eat all of it. We had a great time, talked a little bit about the wedding last year and then just hung out and played a card game.
The next day we were on our first day of vacation and the hotel had given us a bottle of champagne and chocolate covered strawberries, so we had that on our balcony. We enjoyed the rest of the wedding cake that we brought the following night.
I would just let your family know that you've already made plans to spend it just with your H, and that a get together can be planned for a different day.
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One thing that did come up was with a friend's girlfriend. She's always performing in something and inviting us to her performances. We're not that close and its not interesting to us so we consistently decline, hoping that she'll get the hint.
Her BF: You guys need to come to this show, its tomorrow night @ 7.
Us: Sorry, we have other plans.
Him: Seriously? This is a big deal to her, is your thing really that important.
Us: We're going to dinner for our anniversary.
::silence::
Him: I guess thats kind of important...what time is your dinner? Or maybe you guys could go the next day instead?
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We had house guests over our anniversary week and I really wish we didnt. I love all of our friends, but my DH and I really wanted to go away that weekend and then our friends asked if they could come visit from out of state. And we barely get to see them. So we planned a BBQ and trip to a baseball game.
On our actual anniversary my DH gave me an anniversary band and my friend got so upset because she had been married for a full year longer and didnt get one on her anniversary. So she locked herself in our bathrrom and didnt talk to her hubby all afternoon. Then we went to the baseball game and another couple met us there and so we asked what they did for their anniversary which was in may. And the wife flashed her new anniversary band.... (not knowing what happened that morning)
Lets just say the rest of the night was pretty uncomfortable.
I would say anniversaries are for you and your hubby and then eventually you two and children.
Best wishes