Hubby takes a long time to orgasm?

allie0620 · June 2011

Hi all,

I'm looking for a little advice about bringing DH to orgasm. We have always had a very active, satisfying sex life and are very communicative about sex. Since the start of our relationship, however, it has taken him a long time to come. He needs fast, prolonged thrusting in order to orgasm. He has never been able to come through oral sex.

I understand that this simply may be the way his body works, perhaps because of frequent masturbation for years. However, what I'm curious about is if anyone knows of positions where I do most of the work, or ideas for how to make oral sex work for him. He always ends up standing next to the bed and doing all of the work, and it's super tiring for him to do that often! He and I have discussed this often and have tried me on top, but I can't quite seem to do it hard and fast enough for him.

Thanks in advance for your ideas!!
Allie

Mash67 · June 2011

Maybe try Vibrating *** rings? or Lube, some times adding a little bit of lube adds that fast slippery ness enough to not work as hard. And try you on top with lots of fore play and oral before hand. Google things on tips for awesome head. Ive heard tickle his pickle has good tips.

GL

TarponMonoxide · June 2011

You could speed it up a bit by talking dirty to him or stimulating his taint.

BlackDiamond3201 · June 2011

I would try different things.... Rhythm takes time.

anwsd · June 2011

MarriedinCali · June 2011

YGPM

ThnkS3xy · June 2011

Hi Allie!

I have been thinking about this issue since I read your post yesterday and I think I have come up with several suggestions to help your DH reach his orgasm more quickly.

I don't know how active you are with your body and hands during sex but here are some things I do to make my DH enjoy himself more and *** more quickly.

- Do you tighten your vag muscles during sex? One way to intensify sex for your DH will be to practice kegels throughout your day to strengthen those muscles down there, then while he is inside you - tighten those muscles (I prefer to tighten during the thrust when he is all the way in and beginning to pull back out). It's also good to pulse them - tighten, release, tighten, release... etc

- Do you play with his ball during sex? I will use one hand to caress his balls. (Note: it's much more pleasurable for him when your hand is wet, so I will lick my hands or if we are using lube, I will add some extra to my hand) There are 2 ways DH likes best: when I rub him from behind his balls forward & when I rub him from one side where his *** is hard under his balls across the sac to the other side. When I reach his *** on either side of his balls I apply some pressure.

- Do you encircle his *** with your fingers? Sometimes I will wrap my forefinger & thumb around the base of his *** and lightly squeeze & release moving my hand up and down the part of his shaft that is not inside me.

When I'm really tired & want to him to hurry & get off I will do a combo of these moves. It's just meant to intensify his pleasure and help him reach his orgasm more quickly!

Please let me know if you have any questions & if you're not too uncomfortable, let me know if any of these work for you.

Good luck w/ your lovin! Wink

MrsNeetTeacher · June 2011

First, I completely understand the boat you're in-- my DH takes forever, it seems, to come, and after 20-30 mins, I'm tired! I have found that reverse girl on top and role-play conversations really help my DH-- hopefully they can help you too! I'll be looking at what the other ladies suggests for me too.

CDSC · June 2011

I have always thought it was just me. He has fun, and he is happy, but sometimes I get so tired I make him just finish himself. I thought I just needed to build up some stamina, but I have literally gone for a few hours and hes just not even close. He is ok with our sex life, but out of 3 years he has only poped inside me once. I never thought of it being related to his masterbating. Thanks for the confidance. He says doggie style is really good for him so he can control how quickly he does it. Hope someone else has a better suggestion though.

smuslin · July 2011

Why don't you ask him what really turns him on. What porn does he watch when he is masturbating or when he did masturbate.

My husband comes quickly when I moan and act like a porn star saying how great he is and you know dirty talk. Also doggie style works really well.

mrsfall · July 2011

I'd say try the reverse cowgirl and mess with his balls more while he's on top that drive my DH nuts lool Wink

MK2012 · July 2011

As others have said, reverse cowgirl. I have my man half off the bed, so I can stand/sit - makes it easier on me. It's his favorite.

kippersophie · July 2011

mine had the same problem, the only thing that made oral work for him and guaranteed him to come faster during regular sex was slipping a lubed up pinkie in his backdoor - and later we tried one of those little rubber plugs. Stimulating the prostate from the inside is apparently fantastic if he can get past any shyness he might have about anal. Good luck!!

sweetface83 · July 2011

I ditto reverse cowgirl. You can use your thighs/quads more and have a better rhythm with that. He also gets the added pleasure of watching your butt bounce around. Doggy style also gets MH off quick as well.

I also ditto the posters who gave you tips about using your hands and dirty talk.

JenniferChess · July 2011

I found out recently that the reason men like when women deep throat is because you stimulate the base of his *****. I tried rubbing the base of the underside of DH's with my thumb and he went crazy. Hope this helps!

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