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oh nesties - how do I word this??
My SIL (the one I like) and her DH are both turning 40 in September. In a combo of trying to be a good SIL and being a little OCD and schedule things months in advance, I asked my MIL if she knew anything about a joint party for them or for SIL. MIL said she knows nothing, no one's said anything to her about anything, but she's pretty sure SIL's DH would never plan anything, b/c that's just not his thing. She said she's been trying to figure out how to reach out to her friends and find out if something's going on and help if she can or organize, etc. I told her I could send an email to one of SIL's good friends on FB - who I know she hangs out w/ a lot, etc. and check with her.
But, now I feel kinda weird, like I'm going to make her feel like I want to help her/them plan SIL's party if that's what's going - which I don't really since I don't know them and they've got their own little group, etc. and then plus, if they haven't already planned anything, I don't want to make them either feel like have to and/or obligate myself to now plan something. If there's nothing on the books, maybe MIL and I will end up planning something, but it would be small and family-ish - not a big blow out.
Re: oh nesties - how do I word this??
If so, I would email the friend and say hey, MIL and I are in the begining stages of planning a party for SIL and my H. I wanted to contact you since you are close to her, and find out if you know of anything that is already going on so we don't have any scheduling conflicts for her/her friends.
I know that your circle of friends is important to SIL and we want to make sure to include all of those people who SIL would want there. Unfortunately I don't have there contact information. Is there anyway you could get me names and emails for those people?
Thanks
I think Mary is going in the right direction but I think the word host needs to be in there- someone needs to be in charge and right now it looks like that person is you. Do you want to be the host/main host for this party?
Meaning have it at your house or pay for it to be held elsewhere?
Do you want to ask others if they want to co-host with you?