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It's been a while...
I wish I could say that I was here to post good news, but things have been so crazy. I've been kind of lurking around when I can, and have to say that although I haven't posted anything in a while, I've still gotten some great advice from you ladies.
H got very sick and was hospitalized earlier this month, so much of my time was spent taking him to and from the ER, and caring for DS on very little sleep. He was discharged on Independence Day, and vowed that he was going to change because he had a lot of time to think in the hospital. (I didn't spend much time there with him) I didn't really believe him, and turns out I was right not to.
Just when I felt like I was financially and mentally ready to pull the plug on our marriage, I was dealt another blow. I got laid off. So, with little to no money coming in on my part, I'm struggling again. My bosses insist that this is a temporary layoff and will most likely be a couple of weeks, a month at the most. So, I'm trying to use this time wisely and get those "ducks in a row" that I didn't have the time or the freedom to handle before.
I'm trying really hard to not let this setback get me down, and to keep my chin up, but no one is going to rent to a single mother with no income, so I am forced to make a decision. Do I look trust the people I've worked with for 9 years and ride it out, making preparations along the way, or do I jump right in and apply for work elsewhere. With the economy the way it is right now in our area, I'm sure I won't find something that pays what I was making before, but some pay and a job is better than none, right? The sad thing is that I was one of those people who REALLY likes their job... I loved everything about it, the work, the people, and the pay was very reasonable. I hate this.
I'm feeling very defeated today, and hope that you ladies can help give me some new perspective.
Re: It's been a while...
It may be odd to say, but you sound more clear-minded and focused than you have when you used to post. You used to have such big blinders on. Now you know you are in a tough spot, have clear goals and know the road is rough and bumpy. Somehow, you sound stronger, even though your situation is a tough.
Is your unemployment enough to live on for a while? I know its not enough to get ahead on, but can you cover yourself?
I'd look for a new job. It good to start looking and get your contacts into circualtion. Even if your old company comes back with a re-hire, it won't hurt to have some options in the running.
Thanks for that, livingitup! I do feel a little bit more clear minded. I don't know about stronger, but I feel more determined. This is just a temporary setback, and I am a resourceful person (so my therapist keeps telling me). I can make it through this as long as I don't turn it into a pity party for 1!
The unemployment should be enough to keep me afloat for a little while. I have some money I've saved on my own (that H doesn't know about) and I've managed to set aside a small savings in out joint account as well, so I think that will be fine.
I'm actually at the library right now doing some job searching. There's not much out there that won't require me to take up to a $4/hour cut in pay... But there are some options. I updated my resume, and I'm headed out to pick up some resume paper and ink for my printer at home. Then I'll start distributing them. I guess no matter what happens, it doesn't hurt to have the information out there.
I'm glad you updated!
Yes, apply for every job that you can.
Are you in a HCOL or a LCOL area? Could you and the kids cram into a 1 bedroom or studio if you left soon? It might be non-optimal, but it's better than you staying.
And please tell me that your weren't swayed by your H's hospitalization? Him visiting the ER won't magically make him a better person.
Apply wherever you can.
I'm sorry you've had these setbacks. I hope things get better for you soon.
I just wanted to say hi and let you know I've been thinking about you! I'm sorry about your job, but glad to see your determination!
