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I'm annoyed.
I got a text from H's co-worker today (they're good friends) and he said that if I didn't already know, H wants an iPad for his birthday. I told him okay, thanks for the heads up. (H's birthday is today). I have already ordered him a new wallet from King Ranch--he loves their stuff. He had a KR wallet but it was stolen with the truck, so he was pretty upset about it considering it was a gift from me from four years ago.
I ordered a new one for him...I was all excited that I had gotten a perfect gift without him having to tell me to go buy it. We used to do big extravagant gifts for birthdays, but have since toned it down considering we're finally to the point where it's just another day, but with cake and a dinner.
Now H's co-worker texts me and says if I don't go buy it, he's going to. So basically my gift is going to look like I'm a cheap ass, and he's going to have the good gift that H is really excited about. So now I'm going to go buy a fvcking iPad.
Not to mention H's dad isn't going to call him today and it will probably upset him (he will try to play it cool, but it will bother him). I know his dad doesn't even know today's date, let alone that it's his son's birthday...and I have the urge to text him and tell him that I just wanted to remind him it's his son's birthday and I know he'd love a phone call/text. But I also don't want him to feel like I'm solely contacting him to pressure him for a gift.
ETA: My mom said not to go buy the iPad and that my gift is good enough. 
Re: I'm annoyed.
I also would not buy the iPad. That's a hell of a gift from a friend, though. I expect nothing more than a card and a fun night out to dinner from my friends!
He was upset that wallet, a gift from you, was stolen. And so you got him a new one. It is something he wants, and it is a thoughtful gift. Sometimes the best gifts are the ones we don't even realize we want.
My most favorite gift I ever gave only cost about $16, but it was a very meaningful and somewhat difficult to find item, and I put a lot of thought into it. I thought my mom was going to cry, as it was a very sentimental thing to her. I could have gotten her a huge expensive thing, but I chose this, not because of the cost savings (she got other things, as well) but because I knew she would cherish it.
I completely agree with fuzzy. Don't buy the iPad. You put a lot of thought into that gift, and I'm sure he's going to be surprised. With the iPad, no surprise element. But, like fuzzy said, that's a hell of a gift from a co-worker. Good gracious.
An iPad from a friend? Good Lord. I would only expect that if my friend was Hugh Hefner or something.
Agree with your mom and the others. Your gift is thoughtful. He knows you love him, and this will only show that. Put the money you would've spent on an iPad towards your next vacation together.
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That's a very large gift from a friend. I'm not sure why he would drop that on you either, that if you don't buy it he will. That's very strange.
I don't think you should buy the iPad either. I'm betting your H will love what you got him.
I'm not buying the iPad. I still feel crappy about my gift but I'm going to get over it. I have a card, some Burt's Bees (H loves the stuff--I bought ten!) lip balm and the wallet. They're wrapped cute and I got him his favorite cake. We're also going to eat somewhere tonight that H loves. My babysitter bailed on me AGAIN (twit!) but we're just going to take B with us and have a good time. So much for going to see Friends with Benefits tonight.
I know that's good enough, but damn. I just want him to be excited.