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What causes anxiety for you?
I have a LOT of anxiety when it comes to taking our kiddos on trips and I really hate it. I try so hard to be relaxed about it but it just stresses me out mostly because of the sleeping aspect. Ella is a terrible sleeper away from home and it just stresses me out knowing she is going to be up and down all night and I worry that others will hear her or judge me (if we are on a familiy trip or something with other people) which I know is silly but I can't help it. I have gotten comments before from family members about how they had such great sleepers and can't imagine being in my situation and I feel like it puts even more pressure on me to somehow make Ella and B be good sleepers away from home.
I also get really anxious when meeting new people. I am the least cool person there is and I just feel so inept and awkward. I have a terrible tendency to share personal experiences when I feel they connect with what someone else is saying because for me that is something really helpful but then after the fact I always feel dumb and that I am acting like a know it all or something. Lame huh? 
Re: What causes anxiety for you?
I am also a freak about traveling w/ the kids. It stresses adam out b/c I can't just relax. I hate driving in the car w/ ingrid and i worry like crazy about their sleeping away from home. Then I worry that we are upseting the good routine that I have going at home.
I didn't sense your anxiousness when we met, and you are definitely not awkward! I'm pretty relaxed about new people and situations, but I do what you do too and share personal experiences and then feel kinda dumb later. I'm just a talker by nature and sometimes an over-sharer.
I am also a totally freak about germs. Like need to get a grip germaphobe. I sometimes totally lose my cool if I see my girls touch something germy. I wanted to keep G in diapers forever to avoid public restrooms at all costs. I have already had a couple of complete meltdowns in the bathroom w/ both girls.
Water - oceans, lakes, pools, etc. Terrified. I'm a freak, I know.
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I also get really anxious when meeting new people. I am the least cool person there is and I just feel so inept and awkward. I have a terrible tendency to share personal experiences when I feel they connect with what someone else is saying because for me that is something really helpful but then after the fact I always feel dumb and that I am acting like a know it all or something. Lame huh?
I totally feel like I could have written that. LOL! So, I can identify with the feeling.
Social anxiety is probably my biggest anxiety causing agent.
Fake it until you make it. That's my motto.
This is me exactly! My social anxiety is out of control. I have anxiety about calling in sick, calling to order food, I never return anything and I never complain about anything in a restaurant. I make DH do any of these things for me he can, but I still get embarrassed even when he does it! It makes me want to cry just to call and set up a Dr appointment, I'm pathetic. I hate any kind of confrontation. I am not one to over share details unless asked specifically. I am more likely to sit in awkward silence the whole time. Strangely enough, I would rather talk to people in person than on the phone.
Being a nurse, I have to be sociable and talk to my patients and I feel awkward every single time. I love being a nurse but sometimes I really wonder WHY I went in to an area where I have to talk to people all the time. I really wanted to be a Dr but knew I couldn't handle that level of social interaction.
I also have a ton of anxiety of running into people from my past. I have gained A LOT of weight since high school and even college, and I don't want any of them to see me like this. Obviously, I am friends with a lot of them on FB so they have probably seen pictures of my looking like a fat ass but that's different than seeing it in person (in my mind anyway)
I have anxiety about money, even now. With my inheritance I probably will never have to worry about money again but I still do. We have more than enough money saved up for our vacation next week and I am worrying about that too!
And most recently I have been having anxiety about doing IVF.
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I get a lot of anxiety in situations when I don't know anyone or may only know 1 or 2 people... I don't want to be clingy but I have trouble approaching new people. I'm no good at small talk and can never figure out what to say until I know people a little better.
Lately, I've been having issues when I think about work (fine at work for the most part but I wake up at night and think about it and my heart races).
I started getting teeny-tiny anxiety attacks at my last job and that's spilled over into other situations. The last couple years it's happened if I'm going to be somewhere with a lot of children or child talk. My heart will start racing, my breathing changes and I have to fight the urge to throw up - I have to really concentrate on deep breathing to get it to pass.
That is one of the main reasons I didn't go to med school. I wanted to be a pediatrician from about age 5-19 or 20. I relate pretty well to children, I was just worried about the adults
I used to get really anxious about lots of things like my husband's driving (especially in bad weather), being home alone, and flying....but now I think I am just too sleep deprived to worry about it.
I do get anxious when we host people at our house, but I am getting better at it by trying to schedule out tasks to do earlier in the week. I'm also trying to set up a better weekly cleaning schedule so when people come over I'm not scrambling to do those things I don't normally do. We have a beautiful home and we really love it, but sometimes I feel the pressure to keep it looking perfect at all times even though we all know with kids that is really impossible.
i'm a total hypochondriac so that causes major anxiety for me. luckily i have some good meds.
a random one that causes unnecessary stress/anxiety - i HATE when i miss a call and don't have the # in my phone and they don't leave a message. i have to look it up on the internet and if i can't figure out who it is i call them back.
This to a 'T'. I work in brain injury, and hear stories that really make me want people to be more careful always!!! I worry about how my children will grow up in a society where we seem to still not have our morals in the right places. I worry about them growing up in a polluted world with not enough food or good drinking water. It is hard because I try to do my part to correct this, but it still seems like I am not doing enough (control is key to my worry).
Ugh, I have anxiety trying to get small children and DH through the airport for a flight. Before we had C, DH only got anxiety when we flew internationally, now he gets all worked up for every flight we take and that makes me more stressed.
I also don't like cafeteria style restaurants or actual cafeterias. There's too many options and I feel like I'm holding people up as I wander around lost looking at everything available. It doesn't cause me huge amounts of anxiety but I'd prefer to just sit down or drive through somewhere instead.