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Can I make the lamest confession ever?
I'm sad that I never lived in cool apartment when I was single.
I see all these cool pre-war apartment (condo?) buildings in DC and I've always loved them, since I was a little kid and we'd drive past them on our way to the Zoo or a museum, etc. When I was just out of college, I had roommates, and then I had a studio for awhile by myself. When I finally could have afforded a nice apartment, I decided that it was a silly waste of money and moved home for a year to save up to buy a house. These were all good and responsible decisions, etc. but still a part of me is like - you should have lived in one of these cool buildings for a year! I keep thinking maybe when we retire and DD is much older, we'll move back to the city and either get a rowhouse or a cool apartment, plus a house on the Eastern Shore. LOL
Re: Can I make the lamest confession ever?
You're not alone, Kathryn.
I wish I'd made different (read: better) choices in my early 20s. I'd still want the husband and daughter I have now, of course, but I wish I'd gone to college. I wish I'd lived on my own for a little bit, preferably downtown. As it is I went from living with my father to living with my now-husband. And given his vehemently anti-city stance, I'll never live downtown... which I'm mostly okay with. Now we're daydreaming about a farm-type-compound like a friend of mine grew up on, but part of me still wishes I'd been a City Girl for at least a little window of time.
You guys can buy a cool place when you are empty-nesters! I think it would be great to have that plus like a beach/vacation home to split time between.
I never lived on my own....I never had the money to. I lived with horrible roommates for years before moving in with DH.
Yeah, my cubemate just left yesterday for a new job in Seattle. She has a beautiful, modern one bedroom in a high rise within walking distance of work, wine bars, shopping, little eateries, etc. Her building has a swank pool, roof deck, community room for parties and her apartment has lots of windows, big views of the city, and a total lux modern feel.
Like Dani, I'm happy where I am and wouldn't in a million years give up my suburban townhouse-dwelling, Honda-commuting life if it meant having to give DH or my pets. But I wish I had had even a year to live in a place like that.
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Damn, that sounds AWESOME.
For me, part of the daydreaming is also that living the happy family suburban life, while being great and satisfying most days, can also occasionally get monotonous. Again, it's not a reflection of how much I love my family, but sometimes I get sick of the routine and I get lost in the grass-is-always-greener and figure everyone woman living the single life in a city loft is living it up and having way more fun and excitement than I am. Obviously that's not realistic, but fantasies have a way of skewing reality.
I don't think that's a lame confession!
I think there's a part of everyone that looks back and thinks "man, I should have..." I think its natural. My mom always says she should have left Baltimore. I don't think she means she didn't want us kids or didnt want to marry my father etc. She just wanted an experience outside of the same 15 minute radius.
I wish I had lived on my own for even 6 months. But eh, that's okay. I had good roommates during law school and although our house wasn't fabulous or swanky haha, we could walk to bars and restaurants and had cheap rent so we had discretionary income lol.
My dream is to buy a house on the Eastern Shore and a condo downtown when we retire, so that way you have the best of both worlds. We'll see what happens.
Someone's getting a little brother!