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Opinions Needed Please
In my post yesterday I said I had another job interview, while I'm VERY excited for the new oportunity, I'm scared too. The job sounds great, totally something different daily, I'd actually be busy at my job! You'd see less of me 
LOL
What's making me scared/nervous is, the hours are kind of odd. I told the HR guy that I'd prefer the Tue-Sat schedule, that's 8-5 (normally I work 7-330 now) Then I'd have Sun/Mon off. I'm just torn!
How do I ask to have the same hours, I think I'd be OK T-S, I mean I could take Ella to do stuff on Monday's, like play group, taking her to the wading pool w/o a huge crowd (to the one up my street) and so on. But I think H is scared to have her all day on Saturday by himself.
Thoughts?
Re: Opinions Needed Please
I think the T-S schedule could be kind of cool. Like you said, you get the benefits of having a weekday to run all of your errands and do fun SAHM activities with Ella. Why is you DH nervous about staying home with her all day on Saturdays by himself? Has he never watched her for a whole day before? I bet you guys could talk about it and he would more comfortable with the idea if you knew specifically what his concerns were and you guys made a plan to address those concerns?
The only downside I could see is if your DH works a regular M-F job and then you guys only have Sunday to spend together, that would make me a little sad. :-(
FWIW this was the first time I read your post so you do not smell like a troll. :-)
It sounds like you are going through the "pro/con" list which can be really helpful in this sort of decision. This is a big decision! My first thought is why do you think your H is scared to have E all day? Is it something that may improve over time, after a few weekends? Find out from him what he may need to feel more comfortable if you decide to take this position.
Saturdays are pretty valuable days, especially in considering a lot of family-related events (birthday parties, weddings, etc) occur on Saturdays. That can vary from person to person, but something to consider if you begin working over a weekend. I understand the draw of having a weekday off, too -- you can be a part of a whole new array of activities. Target shopping on a Monday morning is pretty awesome
because it's so quiet!
Since your job is a large percentage of your day (life!), you really have to determine if this move is worth any potential changes or losses. Consider the long-term benefits of the position, skill-building, co-workers, $$ ... all of that good stuff.
Good luck in working through this decision. The interview must have went well!?
FWIW, I know you IRL, and you don't have BO
I think that schedule would be nice also. I always thought it would be nice to have a special day for LO and me to bond, and such (as well as one less day of daycare, but that was when he was younger, and not yet socializing like he is now). I also think it would be rough to just see DH in the evening (after a full day of work for both of us) and on Sundays. Especially if you need to travel over the weekends for family things, etc. I know that your family is close, but if you have upcoming weddings, reunions, etc. they are usually on Sats.
Tough one. Maybe do a pros and cons list?
i think you need to get through the first interview before asking about schedule flexibility. bringing a schedule adjustment up during an interview can be a red flag for hiring managers and make them think that you are someone who might ask for a lot of scheduling changes in the future.
go through the interview process first. i think if/when the offer is made or you get further in the process you can ask a couple different ways:
"is the daily schedule negotiable" "is this a set schedule" "what flexibility does this position offer from a scheduling perspective"
something to consider is - are you willing to give up your saturdays for the next few years? likely you will be in this schedule/position for more than 12 months and you need to consider how your life may change in the next couple years and the impact that the t-s schedule may have on your plans and future plans.
ETA: i guess i'm not sure if you already had your interview or not?
I'll admit that I'm one of the "looked but didn't post" people, so I just thought I'd explain...
Questions like this are really tough for me to answer, because I feel like it's such a personal decision for you & DH. I feel like what I think (even though I honestly don't have an answer one way or the other - not sure what I'd do) doesn't even matter...
So, nope, your deodorant & toothpaste are working just fine - at least as far as I can tell from here...