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Story book #3 - More CrAzY MIL Stories
Hi ladies! Here's a few MIL stories that she has done toward xSIL once she found out she was pregnant. Now let me explain that xSIL STUPIDLY went and intentionally got pregnant to trap BIL because she thought she was in love with him and wanted to "keep" him. Well its now 4 years later, her plan didn't work. They are now split and while she loves her kid, she is stuck in the middle of a nasty custody arrangement with MIL all up in her business ALL THE TIME. So far anyone who thinks a baby is the key to solving your problems- let me assure you, its not!
So xSIL told BIL about the pregnancy the 2nd week of Dec, right after he gets home from our wedding. Turns out to be twins and they didn't want it "announced" until she was into the second trimester but BIL tells MIL. Fast forward to the extended family Xmas party a week later and MIL has has told everyone in the family but told each person, no one is supposed to know so you cant say anything because you're the only person I'm telling. Well within an hour into the party its the "talk of the night". So BIL/xSIL show up late and its apparent everyone knows but no one says it out right. Gift time comes- and MIL gives xSIL pregnancy books. PURE EVIL. Like not 1 but I think there were 5- each individually wrapped. {And MIL shouldn't even be giving her any gifts as we do our own immediate family gathering Xmas day.} You would think you could trust your own mother to respect your wishes to keep something quiet but not with a MIL like mine!!
Then xSIL miscarries one of the twins a couple weeks later and MIL has made this the entire families business, sending out descriptive emails regarding what happened and "somehow" everyone gets xSIL's email address and people start emailing her about it. She'd never even met most of the family until that Xmas party. Background here: FIL is from a large Italian family where everyone is nosy and gossips about everything they can. I think MIL thought everyone would focus on bad mouthing/hating xSIL but what she was oblivious to was everyone was actually talking sh!t about BIL here since we all know it takes 2 "to tango".
So throughout the pregnancy, BIL/xSIL's relationship is a complete up and down train wreck. BIL doesn't really care about xSIL but for some reason claims he wants the baby so he'll try to make things work. So they move in together, move out, move back in. He goes on huge party binges (and in real bad ways) and goes on sprees where he doesn't come home for days. Sometimes he goes home to MIL and xSIL, who's a total basket case goes there and causes even more problems. Her and MIL repeatedly get into arguements whil BIL is hiding in the house. MIL is defending his every move saying BIL shouldnt have to change his ways because she decided to get pregnant. Cops are even involved a few times. No joke, every week there is a new story and every story MIL is defending the hell outta BIL and blabbing to the whole family everything xSIL does/says. She of course leaves out any detail of what BIL has done to spark this behavior. BIL even gets a DUI during this time and MIL of course says its all xSIL's fault because she wanted him home. So about 5 months into this (after the DUI) MIL tries to take matters into her own hands and pay off xSIL {in MIL's words} "I'll give you $1000 make this problem go away. You can keep whatever is left over after the cost of the procedure, which should only be about $500." Apparently MIL researched the cost??? And I don't think you can even do it 5 months in but not really sure of either. XSIL immediately runs to BIL with this who confronts MIL and she denies it calling xSIL a liar. BIL of course believes MIL.
And yes- these people have the same last name as me and DH... {hangs head in disbelief & shame}. I do not even know how my H came from this family.
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Re: Story book #3 - More CrAzY MIL Stories
I'm not- You must not have read my other 2 posts but one of the other posters suggested I post some of the crazy things my MIL has done over the years purely for entertainment on how crazy some MIL's are. They are just past stories for other people who can relate and want to know they arent the only ones out there with MIL's that are totally nuts!
What did xSIL see in your BIL? He sounds like a complete dud.
I honestly have no idea what she saw in him. She came from a fairly poor family with a kinda bad background and at the time he was making really good money in construction. I can only guess she thought he had a lot of money and was a real catch. I think she had no idea what she was really getting herself into as they weren't together all that long when she get pregnant and she was pretty young (and imo dumb). Needless to say- she left him right after the kids 3rd bday and I'm surprised she lasted that long. I always knew she'd open her eyes someday.
I always feel badly for the women than try to "trap" a man by getting pregnant, because it usually ends up being a trainwreck. The kids get the brunt of it, of course.
One of my friends had a brother and xSIL that sounds a lot like yours - he worked construction and was making good money and she had the accidental ::ahem:: pregnancy. He also had some sucky bar band on the side and had this vision that they were going to make it big.
One of the 4 guys in the band was killed in a motorcycle accident and xSIL and her kid came home early one night to find brother in bed with the dead guy's girlfriend. You know, because she needed to be comforted. A huge screaming fight between the 3 adults (using the term loosely) ensued, in front of the now toddler.
xSIL's way to end the argument was to call her MIL and tell her how her son was misbehaving. Nice, eh?
Brother got laid off from the construction job, band never made it big, relationship with xSIL is pretty strained. Despite all of this, my friend still thinks her brother walks on water and that he'll get a recording contract someday.