Deployment Worries

Sammy0709 · July 2011

So DH just found out he got dinged for deployment when he was at work today and he is leaving pretty short notice. Ugh.

I'm really happy for him because I know he loves to deploy and he's going to get to do a job that he has wanted to do for quite some time. So on one hand I am excited. Plus I get to watch all the Teem Mom and TLC shows that I want. Yay for that!

On the other hand, I feel like this is his first deployment all over again. For his first two deployments I was less than 2 hours away from both of our parents, had school and a job where I worked 35 hours a week to distract me, and only had a small apartment to worry about up-keep. Now I'm 3,000 miles away from home, work less than 25 hours a week, and have a townhouse to worry about (granted it's base housing). I know I can manage and I know I'll have things to do but I'm worried it will feel different. I just hope that without school and an almost full time job I can find enough things to distract me. I have some stuff planned already. DH's HM1 asked me to help with her son's football team, MIL wants to visit the first few weeks DH is gone, I'll be working officer stuff (hopefully) so I guess I'm off to a good start. I just wish it didn't feel like deployment number one all over again because I, again, am not sure what to expect.

Any thoughts to help me stop being so paranoid?

ESquared423 · July 2011

No worries, you're not paranoid! It definitely sounds like you are off to a good start as far as a couple things lined up to keep you busy/look forward to. Would you consider volunteering since you only work parttime? That'll keep you busy and allow you to connect with others. You made it through deployment #1 when you were unsure, so I'm sure once you find a little routine and get used to him being gone again you won't have any problems. Enjoy this alone time (but of course get yourself out there and socialize once in a while), buy/make things for your new place to make it really feel like home, stay positive. And watch all the TLC your little heart desires! (always my favorite part of being home alone, I get to watch my trashy shows in peace!)

MrsAggie · July 2011

I think having mini countdowns towards vacations, people visiting, and even coaching are great! A few weeks to a couple of months can go by really quickly so enough of those mini countdowns can make a deployment go by faster even if you aren't working as much. DH just deployed for the first time and I was worried because I have the summer off from nursing school and I don't work. At the end of the summer I'm going to Vegas with my family so that's my mini countdown. Also, I workout everyday with my brother (which can also count as socialization plus racquetball is SO fun!), run errands, read, try out new recipes, browse through websites like the nest, and stack up my DVR with any halfway decent show. I think you'll be just fine!

crownsuperstar · July 2011

We are facing deployment soon as well. I have made a decision to stay at my current job that is 2 1/2 hours away from the H due to some of the same feelings that you are going through right now. I can relate totally.

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