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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Morning!
What are you up to today? Any exciting plans for the weekend?
QOTD: have you ever been discriminated against for your gender, race, religion, nationality, etc? Or judged based on any of those categories?
Re: Morning!
I am still in a funk today, but DH has ordered me out of the house to go run or something because I get moody if I stay inside all day
QOTD: at my current job, the CEO was a complete jerk to me and refused to answer my questions about why I was supposed to pay them back money for the two previous months. As soon as my husband emails him, I get a nice well thought out and professional email from him. So either it was because I was a woman, a foreigner, or because he is stupid enough to think he doesn't have to respect his employees, but after my H got involved, things became much more civilized. It felt very 1950s-ish to me.
as far as skin color, I get told several times a year that there are spray tans that would work well for me, as if being pasty pale were something that needed to be hidden. I am not ashamed of my skin color, but it seems that everyone else thinks that I should want to be darker. (Newsflash: Pasty skinned gingers do not look good with a tan!) It isn't discrimination, but it is definitely judgmental.
Morning. Last night, I decided that as much as I would like to go to Singapore, I'm just not financially ready for it. I've got to have the extra month to save for NOLA. But I'm sure H will have another chance to go, and that will be the time.
I'm also currently trying to get my contact prescription from the eye doctor. We'll see how that works out.
Wedding stuff.
Morning! I'll probably go on a long walk today. I also get in a bad mood from being inside all day. Tonight we'll go out to dinner and tomorrow I need to find a birthday present for my mom.
QOTD: I always feel like I'm not taken seriously when I try to call someone to straighten something out. I'll try but then I'll get my H to call and it seems so much easier for him. Maybe I sound like a little kid on the phone, I don't know.
and myblueangel, you should NOT be ashamed of your skin color. You're gorgeous.
It's a boy! -- EDD 11.17.11
Back in the USA...for now...
We're going on a small vacation for the weekend and into the week.
QOTD: In college I was discriminated/judged as being the half-American at my college's Filipino club. Here, I feel like I am either discriminated against because I'm a woman or because I'm half-Asian. I haven't figured it out. It's happened both in person, and via email, and when my husband shows up suddenly everything is ok. Since it's also happened via email, I'm not sure if it's because I'm a woman. Or maybe I just come across bad and I never noticed it anywhere else.
Morning! I got caught up in reading the thread Publius posted, but now that I've finished it up I came over to say good morning. Absolutely nothing to do today. DH and I are going out to his parents' house in the country this afternoon and we are probably going to a free jazz concert at the same place that we had our wedding banquet. Should be an awesome lazy day.
QOTD:
Hmmm. I definitely get tagged as a guiri walking around downtown here and sometimes people assume I don't speak Spanish but I don't think I've been discriminated too much on my race or for being a woman. I might get judged for other things like marrying young, having a baby, etc, but I haven't experienced real discrimination as far as I can remember.
Funny, I've also gotten this kind of attitude. People are shocked that I actually don't want to look darker or ruin my skin by going out in the sun only to burn (which will never turn into a tan, but people don't get that either -- lol).
Hi there! I was hoping to go to the beach this weekend, but somehow that got trumped by the tri-nations rugby on tomorrow so we'll be going to the pub. Hopefully we can go to the beach next weekend. On Sunday we're continuing our search for an air-conditioned church that doesn't take 45 minutes to get to.
QOTD: I have noticed that quite a few ethnically Malaysian men won't talk to me. For example, H and I will be standing together at the bank, or some other service oriented place. Publius will then ask a question and the guy will turn to H, look him in the eyes, and answer my question to H. Publius will then ask a follow-up question. The answer to that too will be directed at H. It's getting a bit annoying.
Morning everyone! Not sure if I'm going to exercise tonight or have a day off. I know, crazy dilemma, huh? I just got a kick start in the weight loss this week (guess FH is a bad influence) and he comes back soon so I figure I should take advantage.
Weekend plans... not sure what I'm going to do Saturday, probably just read, go to the Russian bazaar, play with the dog and go to the gym. Sunday FH is back! So we will probably sleep in (his flight gets in at 3am), I can see what he bought me, and we'll either go out to eat or he is cooking! I've been doing too much this week and now it's his turn :-)
QOTD: Not that I am aware of. It probably helped me get into law school though.
Morning! I'm having to fight hard to keep my eyes open - I had nowhere near enough sleep last night and things are so quiet at work I actually could have a nap.
QOTD: Not discriminated but talked down to regularly by builders. It's the whole "let's explain this to the little lady because she can't possibly know what we're talking about". Thing is I do, so they quickly learn not to patronise me or try to rip me off. It does get tiring though.
Funny thing there, my best friend who is like 4'11 has had this problem when going out with me. She will ask a question or even pay for an object and they will respond to me or even give me the change! She doesn't look younger than me, just nearly 10 inches shorter. I guess I am just more at eye level or something, but it was shockingly rude!
Nothing exciting planned for me for today. Last night we stayed out too late and I imbibed a bit more than usual so I'm going to try to lay low with the kids.
QOTD: I spent a year as an AmeriCorps volunteer in a middle school in Atlanta where the student population was 99% a different race. I was called some interesting names by angry students and was told by one of my fellow volunteers that I was incapable of earning the respect of the students because of my race.
And now I live in Saudi Arabia, so there isn't a day that goes by that having a vagina doesn't have a major impact on what I can do and the freedoms (or lack thereof) that I have.
Good morning!
Just trying to get things done around the house before we leave for the States on Monday. I have tons of laundry to fold and I'm not looking forward to it.
QOTD: I was fired from Abercrombie and Fitch because I was too fat. At the time I was an Abercrombie size 4. I won some money in a class action lawsuit for this.
I'm also told on a regular basis that I need a tan. I like being pale and I don't want skin cancer, but thanks.
NO WAY! I heard in high school that Abercrombie would write Fugly on applications when people were not attractive enough to be hired, but I thought that was a rumor.
Did they straight out tell you that's why you were fired? And a 4??? A size 4? Blech. One more reason to hate Abercrombie and Hollister.
Good (very late) morning ladies. Leo woke up early today so I ended up getting us dressed early and out the door so that we could run some errands in town. I think I screwed myself though b/c I am so achy now. Now, I am just waiting for nap time so we can both lay down.
This weekend we don't have much going on. Wait to see if the baby comes haha. MIL and BIL come on Sunday so other than that, nothing happening, at least nothing planned.
QOTD: When I first moved to the UK, I sort of felted judged for being an American b/c of the whole Bush thing. No one was mean or anything, but it was always questions and drama surrounding him and assuming b/c I was American I automatically supported him.
On a sidenote, I despise being referred to as a Yank.
I was hired by my boyfriend's (at the time) sister who was the manager. She moved away and all of a sudden I didn't have any hours. I questioned the new manager and was told I "didn't fit the brand." A good friend that still worked there told me she overheard them talking about my size.
Morning! I've been much more lurky than posty as of late due to crazy work schedule and lack of sleep. I try to keep up when I can though
Leaving for work soon -- meetings and interviews set up today, we need to hire a ton of people asap for a new project that will be opening within the next couple months. And I feel like crap this morning. Bleagh.
QOTD: I get the blonde treatment all the time. I used to dye my hair different colors all the time when I was younger and the treatment stopped, lol; but, over the last two years, my hair has gone back to it's natural blonde state and people automatically assume I'm an idiot. And uncultured. When I've lived abroad, I've had people assume that I'm all 'America, f**k yeah!', and I'm the complete opposite of that. Which is probably why I've never had problems with the French ;P
hey y'all. dealing with some ridiculous morning sickness that has left me unable to leave my apartment for longer than 30 minutes. but i DID get my first care package from my dad in the mail today, so i'm super pleased about that!
QOTD: i have been discriminated against from time to time, as i'm a fairly dark-skinned mexican. in texas it's not an issue, since everyone is brown, but in backwoods missouri, i really felt pretty uncomfortable. i never had any issues in college (PA) either, even when i became aware that i was in a 300-person lecture hall and the darkest person there. i'll kick hineys if anyone gives me any crap though, and i'm so proud of my heritage that it's never been a hindrance in any way.
Good morning! I think this weekend is going to be a busy one. After work today we are meeting with a woman who we want to be our maid/nanny once the LO arrives. Keeping fingers crossed that she formally accepts what we offer. Then tomorrow, I have several girlfriends coming over and I'm making them a tex-mex lunch. One is moving to France so it is a sort of good-bye party for her. Then tomorrow evening we have been invited to DH's friends house for a "celebration" for our new baby. She wasn't able to make it to my shower so I guess she wants to do something special for us. Sunday I hope I get to relax. Oh and today is my last day at work without all the other teachers. All the staff return on Monday for the new academic year.
QOTD: Not really that I know of or care about. I'm sure it has happened but try not to think about it.
Afternoon. So far today I've met up with a girl from my Mums group for a drink, had lunch and went grocery shopping with my Mum and given E a bath. We have DH's office summer party this evening.
QOTD: At college a number of girls thought that I was gay, I got some bad treatment from that (I went to a conservative all women's school).
Here people think I'm stupid if I speak English, now if I start off in Lux or French I get a different reation...:/
My mom arrived this morning and we spent a little while in the city. Now she's taking a nap.
QOTD: Yes... I was at the grocery store in the busiest part of Zurich and I forgot to say the Swiss greeting. The lady was making faces at me and shaking her head around. She wouldn't scan my items. Finally she scanned them and when I was paying, the bill accidentally dropped out of my hand. I immediately said sorry but she continued to make faces at me. Which by this point I finally had to say something and told her that I'm trying really hard to assimilate and fit in but I'm new and you should give me a chance. I went home and DH called the headquarters for me. I know I should of said hello but frankly it's a bit intimidating to check out. I also wanted him to let the store know because it's a hot spot for tourists.
I get offended by the smut and racist propaganda the SVP party puts out. August 1 is Swiss National Day and the SVP placed stuff in our mailbox to stop the immigration and kick out the foreigners.
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