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WWMND?

meltoinemeltoine member
Sixth Anniversary
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I just got an invite to a bridal shower for a friend whose wedding is in September. I can't go (though I am going to the wedding) because it's in DC. Normally I would send a gift anyway, but I'm going to be spending a fortune to fly me and DS to DC for the wedding, get a hotel, I'm paying for my sister to come down from NY and stay at the hotel with DS while I go to the wedding, and of course a wedding gift. Can I skip the shower gift on this one, or is that still poor form?
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  • lovelyophelialovelyophelia
    I never do wedding and shower gifts unless it is a super close friend. It feels almost like double dipping to me. I think you would be okay to skip it.
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  • Two*TrueTwo*True member
    I think you can skip this.  I would just send a card saying you wish you could be there and can't wait to spend time with her on her big day.
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  • ErikandAftonErikandAfton

    imagelovelyophelia:
    I never do wedding and shower gifts unless it is a super close friend. It feels almost like double dipping to me. I think you would be okay to skip it.

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  • OSUWifey09OSUWifey09 member
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    imagelovelyophelia:
    I never do wedding and shower gifts unless it is a super close friend. It feels almost like double dipping to me. I think you would be okay to skip it.

    I'm the same exact way - unless it's like, my best friend or a close family member. I think it's OK to skip out on the shower gift.

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  • DowagerCountessofNJDowagerCountessofNJ
    A card with a heart felt message is fine.
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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    I'm getting lots of people saying no to the wedding/associated events without sending a gift. I don't think of it as poor form! Just like I hope they don't think it was poor form to be invited when I knew they probably wouldn't come. I wasn't being gift grabby, I just wanted to include them!
    I've seen a lot of military surprise homecomings. It wouldn't work on me. I always have my back to the corner and my face to the door. Looking for terrorists, criminals, various other threats, and husbands.
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  • meltoinemeltoine member
    Sixth Anniversary
    Thanks. I thought it'd be okay, but for some reason I needed outside validation.
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  • crownsuperstarcrownsuperstar
    I think it is fine with a nice note however if you feel like you need to send something just get a nice frame with wedding date or something like that on it.  Cheap but nice.  That is always my fall back gift.
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