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Need some advice about work
I'll give some back ground first. Edit: it ended up being quite long.
I started this job a couple of months ago. In my interview with a VP, we discussed my hours & what the expectation would be here. I said work-life balance is very important to me, and I am not looking to live at my job, but I'd be willing to stay late during month end. He said my job would average 40 to AT MOST 45 hours per week. Under this assumption, I accepted.
Also note, this position is to do the books of side businesses for the owner of the main company. My work is totally separated from the rest of the department.
Fast forward to now. I got a random message from my boss (not the VP who I mostly interviewed with) about me. He mistakenly sent it to me instead of the recipient he intended. The internal IM program is really sucky and it really has been my worst fear that I'd do that myself.
It basically said, "What is S even working on? The fact that she leaves at 5:30 shows she's not a team player."
So I sat there for a few minutes a little shell shocked and finally said "I am not sure if that message was intended for me, but I can answer to your concerns...." and spelled out what my focus for the day was. It was an emergency project the CFO put me on that was taking up all my day. But obviously that wasn't the root issue, so I ended with, "If you would like to discuss the expectations of my schedule and hours, let me know, I'll come sit in your office."
He responded with a brush off "Oh that message was meant for P. I didn't know you were working on X project. We can discuss what else you need to be doing at a later time."
So now I'm thinking. Was he venting? Do I need to start staying later? A lot of the staff do stay quite late, but they are hourly and get mounds of overtime. I don't know if I should start looking elsewhere because #1 they clearly do not like my work ethic and #2 Either the VP misspoke in my interview or the expectation for my position has changed.
I felt like I was pretty straight-forward about asking about the expectation that I was clearly not meeting, still no answer though.
Also, if he was upset I wasn't staying late, why not approach me instead sending someone else a snarky message about it?
I feel sad because I don't think I have a low work ethic. I thought that the fact that I'm salaried would be indicative enough of why I do not stay until 8 or 9 each night, plus my duties are totally separate from everyone else.
WWYD?
I started this job a couple of months ago. In my interview with a VP, we discussed my hours & what the expectation would be here. I said work-life balance is very important to me, and I am not looking to live at my job, but I'd be willing to stay late during month end. He said my job would average 40 to AT MOST 45 hours per week. Under this assumption, I accepted.
Also note, this position is to do the books of side businesses for the owner of the main company. My work is totally separated from the rest of the department.
Fast forward to now. I got a random message from my boss (not the VP who I mostly interviewed with) about me. He mistakenly sent it to me instead of the recipient he intended. The internal IM program is really sucky and it really has been my worst fear that I'd do that myself.
It basically said, "What is S even working on? The fact that she leaves at 5:30 shows she's not a team player."
So I sat there for a few minutes a little shell shocked and finally said "I am not sure if that message was intended for me, but I can answer to your concerns...." and spelled out what my focus for the day was. It was an emergency project the CFO put me on that was taking up all my day. But obviously that wasn't the root issue, so I ended with, "If you would like to discuss the expectations of my schedule and hours, let me know, I'll come sit in your office."
He responded with a brush off "Oh that message was meant for P. I didn't know you were working on X project. We can discuss what else you need to be doing at a later time."
So now I'm thinking. Was he venting? Do I need to start staying later? A lot of the staff do stay quite late, but they are hourly and get mounds of overtime. I don't know if I should start looking elsewhere because #1 they clearly do not like my work ethic and #2 Either the VP misspoke in my interview or the expectation for my position has changed.
I felt like I was pretty straight-forward about asking about the expectation that I was clearly not meeting, still no answer though.
Also, if he was upset I wasn't staying late, why not approach me instead sending someone else a snarky message about it?
I feel sad because I don't think I have a low work ethic. I thought that the fact that I'm salaried would be indicative enough of why I do not stay until 8 or 9 each night, plus my duties are totally separate from everyone else.
WWYD?
Re: Need some advice about work
How much do you like your job?
For several years I worked for someone who would never say anything positive about any employees, only negative. It's not a good feeling, especially when you think you're doing a good job (and thus probably are). Doesn't sound like a good place to be - if I were you and I could get another job, I would. Being appreciated for what you do goes a LONG way for your mental health.
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This. They may be acting unprofessionally but that just give you an opportunity to rise above them. Set a meeting with both. Print a copy of the email. At the beginning of the meeting state that your interpretation of what you read leads you to believe there is an opportunity for alignment on the expectations of your deliverables. And ask them to clarify their expectations, what your priorities and deliverables should be.
What dumbasses.
Totally agree, but I would even go so far as to include your boss in the meeting. I would request a meeting with your boss and the VP saying something like, "I'd like the opportunity to review the expectations of my time in the office and my project load and to clarify my role."
It sounds like your VP never communicated to your actual boss what was said or promised.
this! so sorry you are in this sucky position