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family visit vent
we are heading to the midwest to see family over labor day weekend, including seeing my new nephew for the first time. i am excited about this but am dreading the logicstics. and the games have begun! the emails are already flying about who we need to see when and where and this is just going to turn into no one being happy. it is so frustrating and irritating.
it is ok for us to take like a two hour flight but no one else can seem to leave a 10 min drive from their comfort zone to see us. we could take two weeks off to go there and still piss someone off. no one wants to drive, take off of work or "share" us.
i am sure we will figure things out but all this just takes the fun out of everything.
Re: family visit vent
I feel you dog.
I literally just booked a flight to NY (seriously, like 15 minutes ago) and already everybody is already up my_ass about plans and doing this and doing that.
I am going without DH and dogs, so really, I just want to sleep in. And eat pizza from my favorite place. And then take a nap. And maybe go to the outlet mall.
We make the rockin' world go 'round.
I know exactly what you mean. Everytime DH and I go back to Wisconsin it's the same thing over and over again. Both of our families live there and if we spend too much time at one side the other side gets mad. If we don't drive to see my cousins they get mad but yet they can't make the drive to see us at my folks house.
It's always the same when we leave with my MIL. She literally balls like a baby. Seriously it's so draining that I just want to laugh (I know I know I should feel bad). My FIL doesn't seem to understand we still have all of our college friends and my side of the family to see as well.
Maybe that's why we only go back for Christmas now!
What she said. Decide what the main purpose of your visit is - to meet your new nephew. Then, pick a day and have at "at home" party -- perhaps at your folks? - and tell everyone they are welcome to viist between, say, 3 and 8 pm. or whatever. Have light foods on hand all day and make them all come see you, where you are.
It is not the same thing, but similar to when I was married to 1st husband and we spent ALL of our vacations visiting his family in ALL of southern California. All we did was drive, every day, to have dinner with another cousin, aunt, etc. WORE ME OUT. So when Dan was born and we went there, the deal became -- party at his parents house, you come see us.
You've done the majority of the work, getting to their city, Make them come see you -- bc if they really want to, they will make the time. This should not be about their convenience, and you have my permission to tell them so.
"What is a week-end?"
ugh! i agree that strug2.0 and the new nephew take priority. is there anyway to have a cookout or get-together with both families?
we're getting together with my ILs and three SILs this weekend and i've been dreading it for weeks. the passive aggressive e-mails are enough to make me scream.
i go through similar crap with my family in MA because they all want to see me/us but they usually want me to go to them. *rolls eyes* this last visit we only spent time with my mom & gram because that is what we wanted. we flew up there, if my aunts and cousins can't get in a car and drive 10-20 minutes to say hello then i just can't be bothered either. i felt a little bad but honestly, this is one of the nicest family visits i've had so :P
i'd try to get as much sorted out now as possible so you can hopefully just have fun while you're there. good luck!
can DH have a conversation with them? or his parents on your behalf? that would royally piss me off and i would not be able to promise that i wouldn't tell them to go fvck themselves. so inappropriate and none of their effing business!
this is why i don't go home anymore lol.
when i go home. i would see the important people. well you know what i mean. i gave grandma and parents precednce. everyone else i'd say ok if you want to see us come to xyz if not too bad so sad
I wanted to say this in my response but forgot.
This is what I do (or what DH and I do when we go somewhere). We flew all the way here, so if you can't drive 5 minutes around the corner I don't care to see you all that much either...
We make the rockin' world go 'round.
we saw my ILs last month on a random last minute visit. MIL is ok on this topic but she says people have asked her and she said it is really none of her or their biz.
she totally has my back if i go off
there's comfort in knowing that someone has your back at times like that
I definitely feel your pain! We only live 150 miles away but we've done this drive at least once a month for the past 3 years (and sometimes much more! We got engaged after moving here but our wedding was back home.) and I'm so over it. My parents have been here maybe 4 times and my MIL once (although not really complaining about this). When we are home, everyone complains we don't spend enough time with them. They don't seem to get that after 3 hours of driving and who knows how much in tolls, I don't feel like making 10 individual trips all over to see everyone. I keep trying to stretch the time between visits but it always seems like there is something going on (bdays, showers, wedding, babies, etc) that we *have* to attend. It doesn't help that we come from families that consider living one county over as "moving away." We might as well be living in Europe to some of them!
It really upsets me that no one wants to make more effort to see us, either by coming here or by stopping by wherever we are staying. I recently asked my 25 year old sister to come down for a concert but she refuses to drive here by herself because "it's too far to drive alone." Seriously?!
Sorry to jump in with my own vent but I'm glad to see we aren't the only ones who feel this frustration!
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