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Don't you ever get tired of dragging yourself to stuff?
Is there ever an age where you can say no to things comfortably?
I don't think I can cancel on this group wine tasting event tonight because it's sorta a way to celebrate a friend's birthday and I committed to it. But I'm freaking exhausted because I worked my @ss off today. Dh was supposed to drive, but he's home with a terrible headache. So I will drive a friend (who can probably get a ride home elsewhere), not drink and try to stick it out for as long as I can.
I'd really rather be home on my couch. I actually just wished I had a kid to use as an excuse, lol. Whine over.
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Re: Don't you ever get tired of dragging yourself to stuff?
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Not often, as I'm very bad about saying no, and I'm not one of those people who dreads bridal and baby showers and such at all, but it certainly happens that there is an event you I don't want to attend.
Sometimes you just need break.
I'm still learning about not over extending and saying "no" I haven't figured that part out yet, because if I don't have an excuse of already having other plans, saying I need to get housework done or something makes me feel badly, because I am someone who prioritizes my relationships highly on my things to take care of, and the washing of clothing/scrubbing of toilets not so high on my list of priorities.
Pretty much this exactly. I usually have to drag H to stuff, and he complains at first but ends up having fun. But yeah, I'm also terrible at saying no, plus I love spending time with people.
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I'm learning to get better at saying no. We had this issue last year for New Year's. We have good friends who throw a party every year but they live two hours away and neither one of us gets out of work early on New Year's eve. So we end up rushing home and then sitting in traffic to get there late in the evening, be exhausted all night, then turn around the next morning and go home. The overnight accommodations aren't great at their place, and we have to pay $50 to board our dog because they have cats and we can't bring her with. So... the last couple of times we went, it just felt like a lot of work. I hate to say that because they're our friends and we love them, but... that's just how we felt.
So last year, we told everyone that we were staying home. We stayed in our pajamas, cooked a fancy dinner, watched a movie and went to bed. It was the best New Year's ever and I don't feel guilty for doing that.
I find that a lot of people take it personally when you say no and give you a giant guilt trip, which I think is lame. I say don't feel bad for wanting to spend your free time as you see fit. If you are too tired to go out, just say so and let that be the end of it.
Yes, we get extremely tired of event after event. And it makes us slightly pissy (am I allowed to say that here?) towards each other.
My husband and I have been working on not overbooking ourselves (you can read about our crazy lives on our blog: http://therolexrelease.blogspot.com), but it's soooo hard to say no. I'm getting better at it though! Hopefully by year two of my marriage, I'll be a pro!
I'm not an expert, but my advice would be to just start saying "no" and it will get easier after time. I'm crossing my fingers that it'll work...
Oh, and it cracks me up about wanting children solely for the purpose of having an excuse to stay home... I have had the same thoughts!! hahaha!!!
This, and so much more