July 2010 Weddings
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Name changing
Anyone else have this? I had always planned to change my name to First Name Maiden Name Last Name and did most of the paperwork a year ago and now I'm regretting it. Its not that I dislike my married name but I had no idea how attached I was to my middle name (which I dropped) and I figured by using my maiden name as middle it would still get used but it doesn't- people just call me First Name Married Name. Or I get mail addressed to Legal First Name Married Name and it just doesn't feel like "me".
I'm strongly debating changing it again....I know DH prefers us to have the same last name (but said he wanted me to do what I really wanted) and I like that too but I just miss my old name and don't want to lose it.
What would be your choice for name changing again? If it changes your vote my first name is 7 letters (but I go by a 5 letter nickname), my middle name is 5 letters, my maiden name is 4 letters and my married name is 7 letters. Another option is dropping my married name legally but just using it socially. I know it sounds like that wouldn't make a difference in what people would call me but I'm actually okay with that option.
And does anyone know how difficult it would be to change on our mortgage and property title?[Poll]
I'm strongly debating changing it again....I know DH prefers us to have the same last name (but said he wanted me to do what I really wanted) and I like that too but I just miss my old name and don't want to lose it.
What would be your choice for name changing again? If it changes your vote my first name is 7 letters (but I go by a 5 letter nickname), my middle name is 5 letters, my maiden name is 4 letters and my married name is 7 letters. Another option is dropping my married name legally but just using it socially. I know it sounds like that wouldn't make a difference in what people would call me but I'm actually okay with that option.
And does anyone know how difficult it would be to change on our mortgage and property title?[Poll]
Re: Name changing
I'm a traditionalist when it comes to marriage and names - so I'm on the page that thinks the woman should take her husband's name. That being said, I think that if you're still, after a year, regretting changing your name, I think a hyphen might be a good option. That way you're still keeping your pre-wedding name, but just adding your married last name into the mix.
That's just my opinion.
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You could always use your maiden name as a second middle name, instead of hyphenating your last name.
I'm a little bit of an odd bird because I go by my middle name. I always have since I was born. My parents named me Mary Caroline with the intention of always calling me Caroline. Mary was a family name, but Mary Caroline flowed better than Caroline Mary. So, since birth I have been Caroline.
When I got married I wanted to drop the Mary because I have never use it. I wanted to go from Mary Caroline M. to Caroline M. W.... I was really excited to take H's name. My parents were soooo devastated about me dropping the Mary. Even my dad, which I did not expect at all. I thought he would be touched that I identified more with the "M." (maiden name, his family name) than with the Mary. When I got to Social Security and tried to go through with this, I was told no. You can't change your first name legally without a court order. I could be Mary Caroline W., Mary M. W., or Mary Caroline M. W. So, I walked out of Socaial Security with 4 names.... Mary Caroline M. W. I have 4 names. Not a hyphenated last name, but I have 2 middle names now (Caroline and my maiden name). I primarily use Caroline as my middle name on important things/documents like credit cards, checks, bank cards, our deed/title for the house, school/job paperwork, signatures etc.
So, it is always an option for you to have 2 middle names, and it really won't affect your life too much.
I think that you should just add your middle name back in and have two middle names. That way you can still have your maiden name but your last name will be the same as DH which will make it easier when you have kids.
But ultimately I would just think it over and make sure that you do what you are most comfortable with.
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I kept my middle and maiden name and added my married name. I have always had my strong czech last name which was highly recognized in the community I grew up in. Now with my polish last name, people dont know my family connections... I kept my full name and added my married name because Social security and the state government recognize it!
But now since both names are on my legal documents there are no confusions when I pay my bills. And sign important paper work..
My husband fully supported it since I took his name as well. However, mother-in-law and grandmother-in-law not so happy...
In addition: My Husband's cousins new wife has kept her family name because her biological mother and step mother both have died from breast cancer. I think that is a great reason not to change, although some may not think so.
Not to be rude but I don't like any of your options.
I'm all about the name: First Name, Middle name, Married name. Done.
I like my middle name and I'm traditional about taking the guy's last name....and I didn't want to hyphenate.
My H's sister, for example, has no middle name at all. She's just First Last.
So for her she'll be First Maiden Married. No problem.
H wants to not give our daughter (whenever we have one) a middle name because apparently that's traditional in the South he says. His mom's name is the same way....I'd never heard of just not having a middle name before in my life, I want to give my kid a middle name.