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Sick Family - WWYD?
I may DD later.
My SIL has cancer and it has spread to her liver. (Back story - originally diagnosed with breast cancer in 2006. Had chemo, double mastectomy and hysterectomy. Given clean bill of health. 2010 Cancer came back and she was undergoing chemo). She is actually my step-SIL. DH knew her and is sort of close to her, but did not grow up with her. MIL called Sunday to say that SIL may not make it through the night, but she did.So nobody knows how much time she has left.
Now DH cannot decide if we should go up to Pittsburgh now, or "wait to hear" . This is DH's last week at his job - he starts a new one next week.
While I don't want to take the time off, I do think if there is a chance we can see her "before", we should go. It sucks to live with regret. At the very least, I think we should be there for FIL (I'm sure he is stunned. This is his first kid.)
What do you think we should do?
ETA: We were lucky enough to see SIL and her family over the 4th.
Re: Sick Family - WWYD?
I would go
You won't regret going, but you may regret not going.
At the very least, I think your DH should go.
I'm so sorry
Thanks for the t&p's. I am trying to convince DH to go, but I think he is using work as an excuse to avoid going (and dealing with this terrible situation).
I still have plenty of time to take off and an understanding boss. (Since I took mat. leave, I feel bad taking more, but my boss really doesn't care, as long as I have the time.)
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I'm in agreement w/ everyone else that, at the very least, your H should go. If I were in your shoes, I would absolutely go, too. We went through a similar situation w/ my grandmother (battled 6 different types of cancers over the span of 7 years) and I still remember getting that "she may not make it through the night" phone call. DH (then FI) and I immediately went, even though it was an almost 2 hour drive and I was scheduled to take a PRAXIS exam the next day (a requirement for teachers). She ended up hanging on for another 10 days, but I will never regret going to see her that night, b/c at that point, every time we got to see her was a gift.
It's an awful situation, so I can understand why your H may be trying to "avoid" dealing w/ it, but I really do think PPs are right in that he will regret it later if he doesn't take advantage of this potentially final opportunity to see a loved one.
T&Ps for you and your family during this difficult time.
... every single day of forever.
I am so very sorry.
I would go. Like pps said, you wont' regret going, but you may regret if you don't.
Yes I would try to go, too. Like so many of the other ladies have said: I don't think you'll regret going but almost certainly would regret NOT going.
Ts and Ps to you and your family.