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Oh holy balls. My brother and his wife are moving in with my parents!
My older brother, his wife and my niece are moving into my old bedroom at my parents' house. They were living with her dad, his girlfriend and the girlfriend's kids. Including them, there were 11 people in the house.
My old room is tiny, barely big enough for 1 person, let alone 3. The kicker is that my parents only tolerate my SIL in small doses. Shes loud, obnoxious and entitled. But, of course because they're having financial issues (just bought a new car for her, have multiple credit cards maxed, she's a shopaholic and they always go out to eat), my parents are letting them move in.
They're TTC #2, even though they have no savings, no place of their own and my niece is barely disciplined.
Time to sit back with the popcorn and watch the sh!t hit the fan.
Re: Oh holy balls. My brother and his wife are moving in with my parents!
I am an idiot. I thought this was going to be a post about your brother discovering that he and his wife were related to each other.
Carry on.
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Bwahahaha eww, you guys are gross. Sorry my title wasn't more clear!
I side eye their decision to TTC, P2B. I'm side eyeing hard.
I'm not side-eyeing, but I do wonder whether I am being ridiculous or they are..? Maybe both?
Everyone's entitled to have kids - I guess I'm shocked that people are prepared to do it without having a bit more stability going on. Meh, each their own, huh?
I'm definitely side-eying TTC 2 when they are going to be living in one room in your parents house and with that financial situation. Huh.
I'll be with welshgirl on the couch, eating popcorn and waiting for further updates.
I don't blame you for not wanting to give up a room for a baby. That I can completely understand.
I don't understand why they want to bring another child into an already difficult situation. It's ridiculous to have a child when you can't give it the support it needs, kwim? My brother wants to wait, SIL keeps pushing the issue because DH and I have decided to talk about TTC when D is two. Everything is a competition with me. She *had* to have the first child in our family, even though they could barely support Raven in the first place. Her ourtrageous spending is bleeding my poor brother dry. He works 3 jobs plus goes to school to try to make life better for them. They've also filed bankruptcy once because of her out of control spending.
I will definitely keep you guys up to date with the drama. I expect some hardcore biitching from my mom the first day they move in.
LOL, are we the same person. I won't give up guest room, office or MBR for a baby either (fortunately we do have 4 bedrooms).
Having to move in with your parents due to mismanaging your money is bad enough without children. It's insane to try to add another kid to that mix.
If I were Bananas parents, I would tell them that they're only welcome as long as they work towards solving this mess and not adding to it by having another kid. As soon as they'd start TTC again, I'd kick them out (the adults that is, the grandchild could stay, just the one that's already there...)
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<a href="http://www.thenest.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=HTML&utm_campaign=tickers" title="Home DDitto. Plus, WTH is up w/ the competition part? That's so freakin' creepy. Both my sibs had 2 kids by my age, heck I guess my parents had 3 (I'm #3)... bully for them. I've got an English Setter and a really healthy relationship with coffee and red wine!
Seriously though, it's one thing to want to have children close together (compatibility, easy of going through like phases together, etc), but that goal needs to be tempered with the reality of your situation. A Dad w/ 3 jobs, while totally hardworking/responsible, and cramped living conditions, doesn't say, "perfect time for #2", IMO.
My dad put boundaries on them. They can move in as long as they curb their spending. Limiting their fast food addiction, getting cheaper phone plans, no TTC until they can afford their own place.
My brother agreed to all of it (he wanted someone else to tell his wife the same things he's been saying for over a year). His wife on the other hand... is having a fit from what I understand.
Room on the couch for me? I can bring the Raisinettes!
I agree. He needs to take control of the situation, but he lets her walk all over him. It's really infuriating. I know he's so much stronger than he seems.
If I were him, I'd tell her to suck it up and deal with living on a strict budget. She needs to deal with the fact that they have financial issues instead of burying her head in the sand and continuing on the way she has been.
She has an IUD, and hasn't had it removed yet (she tells her sister everything), plus he uses condoms. He told her if she didn't back off about TTC, he was getting a vasectomy. I heard all of this from my dad tonight, as they were sitting on my parents' sofa arguing.
Lots of drama in my family. Glad I'm away from it all!
The competition is just how she was raised. She had to compete with her sister for attention from their dad because he worked all the time. Once she saw how happy I was with DH (before we were married) she focused on one-upping me because she and my brother were fighting all the time. She even said at one point "My life is going to be better than yours, and I will do everything before you because I'm older". I try to ignore it for the most part.
Ditto the bolded part.