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WWYD - SIL/BIL's Anniversary
Yesterday was SIL and BIL's anniversary (not sure how many years - more than 10, less than 15, I'm pretty sure). They're out of town till today, and I think they're coming home tonight... not sure. Anyway, in my ILs' family, they don't really do celebrations for birthdays or anniversaries - it's usually a card, or maybe a dinner out, but that's a rarity. Usually just a card.
But that feels "not enough" to me. My family is huge on birthdays and anniversaries and I feel like it's thoughtless to not give something - at least a cake (I love baking and cake decorating. Still learning, though). Or a photo frame. Or... I don't know - something. But I don't want to put anyone in the position of thinking that since I gave them something, they "owe" us anything when our anniversary comes along. My default position is "give a card, like the family culture has already established, and leave it be," but I was wondering what your thoughts on this might be.
Re: WWYD - SIL/BIL's Anniversary
your family vs dh's is similar to mine. over the years (regarding his family anway) i've just gone with the flow and he has done the same with mine. if you feel though that you are close to them and that you really want to give them something then make them cupcakes or a small cake. if they're not into gifts i think a few cupcakes is a good idea-not gifty, but it's acknowledged, does that make sense?
Follow their family culture.
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I agree with a card and some brownies or something simple-ish like that.
If you are bent on a cake and decorating, how about cupcakes?
I won't be acknowledging my BIL/SIL's anniversary this year, they've never acknowledged ours. AND....my family never acknowledged other family anniversaries so it's not a big deal for us.
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This.
I would just follow what the family does. Everyone in my family is divorced and my BF's parents have been married for 28 years. Idk what they did before me but every year since I've known them I get a card from me and my BF.
Oh, I don't know. A welcome home/happy anniversary cake with a card would be a nice thing to come home to, and cakes are cheap to make, so you wouldn't have the 'big gift' thing to worry about for them with your anniversary.