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Splitting up chores

Does anyone else feel it's easier just to do it all because you feel like it gets done better if you just do it? I heart my man, he's just awful at cleaning.

Re: Splitting up chores

  • Maybe he's awful on purpose because he knows you'll just give in and do it all.
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  • I don't think so. He really does try. I just don't think cleaning is his strong suit.
  • We basically have the rule of I clean the inside and he cleans/maintains the outside, with exception of his bathroom, I don't touch that!
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  • This is how I feel about cleaning the bathrooms.  Fortunately thats a chore that doesn't bug me.  I absolutely hate dusting and vacuuming though (don't mind sweeping) and DH enjoys them, so he always does those chores.
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  • I feel that way too. I try to get DH to stick to the litter box, trash, and outside things. I take care of inside things. I'm just more particular about how things are done.
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  • Yup totally think that it actually gets done better if I do it.  When my hubby cleans he doesn't clean EVERYTHING like I do.  I do get frustrated because I feel like I never get time for my self because I am always cleaning or cooking but what do you do.
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    I don't think so. He really does try. I just don't think cleaning is his strong suit.

    Here's what I'm about to try at my house.  Hopefully together, we'll make a list of morning, after work, and before bed chores/checks that need to be done.  Just something very simple and quick since we have a newborn and I just need to keep the house running, mostly checking the garbage cans, sink/dishwasher, and laundry. This way we keep those systems running so we can deal with the unexpected stuff that comes up. 

    I just read somewhere, maybe on this board, that a couple had instituted a 15 minute before-bed clean up time, mostly so the husband would pick up and take care of some of his things. That might work for you. (This is how I personally trained myself to pick up the house, but I did it over an hour during commercial breaks each night.)

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  • Oh sure. I KNOW my husband doesn't clean the faucet on the bathroom sink when he cleans the bathroom, because there are water spots still on it when he's done. When he does the dishes, he doesn't wipe down the sink or counters. But would I rather be the one cleaning the bathroom each week or cleaning the kitchen every night? Hell no.

    You can also divide chores in a way that plays to each of your strong suits. I've never had a complaint about the way he takes out the garbage, for example.

    Also, my husband is a bit more messy than I am. I let him use the den as "his space" and, although the piles of shoes and computer equipment still bug me, I don't dictate how neat he needs to keep it. That's up to him, because he's the one who uses that room most often.

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  • I like the 15-minute clean-up idea!  We may need to use this.  We are in the process of buying a house and since our mortgage will be half our current rent payment I have hired a maid to come every other week to do the deep cleaning.  I am not going to say my husband sucks at it, because he's never done it and although I would love a sparkly clean house, I am too tired to keep up with everything myself and have better things to do like watch Big Brother! :)

  • You could also alternate chores.  So if you do chore list A and he does chore list B this week, you switch next week (you do B, he does A).  That way it "really" gets done at least every two weeks.  I don't think you should follow behind him, do it for him, or just let him off the hook though.  Then he'll never do it! 
  • imageSportsfanMilly:
    Does anyone else feel it's easier just to do it all because you feel like it gets done better if you just do it? I heart my man, he's just awful at cleaning.

     

    YES!! I thought I was crazy, but glad I'm not alone! 

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