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And we're not going...
Probably most of you saw this in the other message. It just isn't conceivable, unfortunately. Really we're shouldn't have thought we could once the pressure sore developed knowing how serious they are and how easily and quickly they progress. DH has been VERY upset about it because a) he feels terrible that I can't go on the cruise b) he is sad because part of the cruise was to do a ceremony to scatter his dad's ashes and c) he's reliving everything he thought he'd put behind him 5 years ago after the surgery. It's c that's the hardest. We're both concerned that he could end up in the hospital again. He's already feeling like he's in prison having to be in bed basically all day. But it's the only way it will heal. Getting up as little as possible (which yeah, that's lots of fun for all). Transferring into and out of his chair is what is the most risky for setting back the healing, because the skin can shear/rub/tear of a sore/wound so easily when he uses the transfer board to and from his chair. And while traveling he would have had to do that several times between transportation modes.
There's so many extra factors; the fact that he had another sore (that has already healed) only a few weeks ago, the fact that this one is right on the bone and that it's skin and tissue that has already been grafted/worked with to cover the other side of his backside. I don't know if they could remove it and re-graft skin in that area, if it didn't heal. We know that they can't ever do the skin and tissue surgery again in the area that was covered/had the original sores 5 years ago. The area where this new one is is the skin that was taken to cover the other side. Sorry, I know this is kind of icky but I have to get it out. I'm not going to embarrass DH on FB.**SIGH** Have I mentioned this sucks?! Please keep thinking good thoughts, send out dust, good vibes, and mojo for this to heal up as soon as it can. Which is probably a couple of weeks.
ETA: His mom called to tell him they've decided not to do the ashes ceremony without him. So we'll do that somewhere in CA when he's able to be up and around again.
Re: And we're not going...
I'm so sorry, H... I'm keeping your DH in my thoughts for a quick recovery.
Again, so sorry you guys are dealing with this. I'm sure it's driving him crazy to have to stay in bed and be waited on. He seems like a pretty independent guy and I can't imagine how upset he must be. I hope he takes it easy on himself and doesn't beat himself up about it. At this point all you can do is look ahead and be patient so it heals ASAP.
Will you need to go to a doctor for an opinion or just wait for it to heal at this point? Tell him the Nesties are thinking about him (and you)!
I'm so sorry H. I'm bummed for you guys and I hope he starts to heal soon and feel better. This must be so hard on both of you.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.
I agree with Passanie though... you're making the right decision. It's better for him to heal quicker, and even though you won't get to go on this cruise, there will be other vacation opportunities. Plus at least his mom is going to wait to scatter the ashes until he's there.
Lots of T&P for you guys.
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I'll be sending lots of T&P to your and hubs to heal. This must be so frustrating for both of you. It sounds like such a scary and difficult situation. I hope he heals quickly and without incident.
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1st: the entire situation royally sucks. I'm so sorry and I'm sending you loads of hugs and healing thoughts.
2nd: you are an amazing wife (heck, person) - make sure to take some time to take care of yourself. I know you're focused on him, and that's important, but you're no good to anyone crazy ;-)
Keep us posted.
I'm so sorry about this, H. I hope things begin to look up for you guys, and that Drew's health improves. HUGS!
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i'm sorry that all of this is happening. but it isn't a bad thing that you aren't going on the cruise. the last thing you want to do is for this to get worse. sitting in an airplane for long stretches of time wouldn't be a good idea esp since D wouldn't have a way to change positions.
i know that you're bummed. i'm just hoping that D can heal up soon and not have to deal with this again for a very long time. just remember that protein and vitamin c are both really good for wound healing. 
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