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I resigned today.
I really feel like this new position is a fresh start for me and I'm really excited! I haven't been happy at my current employer for a while with all of the changes that keep going. It's been an uncomfortable feeling, where we have to talk behind closed doors, or whisper, and I don't want to work like I'm always walking on eggshells.
Two Fridays ago my boss pulled me into her office to tell me that she was giving me a raise, because she didn't want loose me to a former co-worker and I do a great job. Do you see the order in which this delivered? While being grateful for a raise, it still didn't solve the problem that I'm unhappy. Secondly, the raise that she gave me should have been given to me a year and half ago when I was promoted without a raise.
Last Monday my former co-worker called and asked if I was still interested in a position at this new company. I said yes, but my boss had just given me a raise. When I told him what she gave me, he told me he could get me something better. (and it is a lot more than my current salary) I can work from home a few days a week, and I know a lot of the people at working at this new company, they are all previous employees of my current company. (if that tells you anything about my current company) After discussing with my family and a few friends I decided that this was a better opportunity for me right now. The only downside is I have to sign a non-disclosure agreement with my new company, I can't tell anyone where I'm going. It's a cut-throat business, and they don't want anyone stealing their clients.
I turned in my two weeks notice today, and my boss was not happy with me. After explaining how I, like some many other people, have a lot problems with the way the company. I also explained that I think I needed a fresh start away from my personal history. I started this company engaged, got married, divorced, and now he has passed away. I want a fresh start! I don't think I can really move on if I'm sitting in the middle of my past. She said she understood, and If I ever wanted to come back that the door was always open.
Now here is why a fresh start really hits home for me. A little while later my boss called me back into her office to tell me that the director is upset that I'm leaving, but can understand why I want a fresh start. Human Resources informed him of my ex-husband's death, as it's in MY personnel file. I find it a little disturbing that my personnel file has information on my ex-husband's death and the manner in which he died. I really don't think it belongs in my personnel file.
Re: I resigned today.
This. A fresh start is always a good thing. Congrats!
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Congratulations on the new start - I agree it will be great for you. Psychologically, getting yourself into a new environment will do wonders for you when trying to let go.
As far as it being in your personnel file... that could have happened in so many inocuous ways. Maybe your boss documented a communication with you where she had concerns about performance or absence or something like that but made sure to note the extraordinary circumstances that made her feel she should take it easy on you. That is one simple way. Yet on the other hand, I had an employee go through something and had to counsel her but I was very discrete about how I described it when documenting my own communications with her about her attendance related to the issue, since you never know who might see those records.
I'm only sharing that to give you some peace of mind that maybe it wasn't as creepy as it seems at first glance.
Anyway - brush your shoulders off, get a new start, and much luck and happiness in your move!!!
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How exciting! It sounds like a fresh start is just what you need.
That's very odd that they brought up your husband's death...