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I'm curious: registry info on wedding invite
Do people know this is not proper etiquette and ignore it, or do some people really not know this?
My FFC: I hate registry info included in wedding invites in any way. It.bugs.me.
What do you ladies think?
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Re: I'm curious: registry info on wedding invite
We're kind of going out.
I personally did not include it on our wedding invites. However, it's never bothered me when my friends have done it.
Is it poor etiquette? Yes.
Does it really bother me? Not really. I mean, I'll think to myself "I wonder if they know you're not supposed to do that?" but that's about it.
I did get a little worked up over one particular invite I received that listed the registries but then also said "Target and Home Depot gift cards are most appreciated." Right on the invitation. That was a little rude.
Mr. Sammy Dog
If I really stop and think about a wedding registry the whole thing is awfully tacky and gift-grabby. Why is it acceptable for weddings but not birthdays or Christmas? *shrug* That being said, I do side-eye the information being on an invite but I don't lose sleep over it.
I was most annoyed at getting a beautiful fancy invite and then having to get my butt off the couch and go buy stamps to be able to return the RSVP card.
one of my friends just got an invite that said "XXX and XXX gift cards will be accepted." (I can't remember which stores). It was printed right after the registry info, right ON the invite.
Eh, it is tacky, but so are a lot of wedding related things.
Many worse things make my jaw drop . . . such as the "Officiant" dressing like Prince (ie flowing white robes and purples scarves) and front-mounting his boyfriend during "Save a Horse, Ride a Cowboy" - while the entire room stood around the dancefloor in shock - - and then the bride joined in! It got worse - - - one of them requested the DJ play that horrid Paris Hilton Song! Tacky to the extreme!
I guess in the UK putting registry info on your invites is not uncommon or impolite. A lot of the registries require a special code to access the list and since they don't do wedding showers, how else do you get the information? Even if you know where they are registered, without the code, it does you no good!
But several friends of ours have gone a step beyond and actually requested money. One requested it to purchase their "dream leather sofa" (yes, they said that) and another included a poem about how they had already been "living in sin and had everything from pots to a bin" and would really rather you gave them money. Niiiiiiice.
We didn't do it, but it really doesn't phase me when I see it included. I'd hope it wasn't printed on the actual invite, but if it's on an 'accommodations' card, that's fine. I feel like that's just general useful information.
Now. My step brother had "Cash gifts only requested" printed on the actual invite.
Honestly? Address labels bother me more than registry info... or cash bars. Well, I hate cash bars. But if you host me some cheap beer and wine, and leave the rest as cash, I'm fine.
Eat.Drink.BeMarried. Blog.
Doesn't bother me all that much. It saves me the hassle of trying to hunt down their registries online.
And I'm all for everyone getting an Amazon Wishlist!! I have one, and I will create them for my children (when we have them). It makes birthdays and holidays so much easier. Then I don't have toplay guessing games.
Yes, yes, and yes. I will never understand this. People don't pay for drinks at other types of parties....why charge for drinks at (presumably) the classiest party you'll ever throw?
This could turn into an all-out debate
For me, though- I'm picky about what I drink. I don't expect the bride/groom to host a FULL open bar. But I'd rather have the option of paying for what I want to drink.
The difference, for me, is that at a house party or whatever- I can bring in my own booze or beer if I'm picky. I can't do that at a wedding.
If the couple hosts SOMETHING but the rest is cash bar, I'm happy.
Eat.Drink.BeMarried. Blog.
Why though? They're hosting something. If you don't want to pay for a drink at a wedding, don't. But I like my rum and Diet Coke; H likes his gin gimlets. How does it affect you if I want the option to pay for something else? I dunno. I just don't see why it's tacky, if they're hosting something.
Eat.Drink.BeMarried. Blog.
As I get older it's more of "I've got bigger fish to fry than worry about..." issues... Yea I also in my head ask the question "do they realize this is an etiquette no-no?", but quickly get over it..
A lot also depends on what the etiquette is for their particular family. I know many families that it's a MUST include type thing.
It's one thing to include a mention of where they're registered it's another to say "only XYZ gift will be accepted" - which would be an open invite for me the guest to give them something else without a gift receipt or indication of where I purchased the item from...
Yes, that is a very mature way of handling that situation.
Yuck.
I hate registries on invites - shower invites, fine, but I hate it on the actual invite.
For the "hosted" bar thing -- I'm fine with it if you pay for beer some kind of wine and letting people pay if they want something "special" or whatever. We had a fully hosted bar (though the bartenders did have the tip jar out), but it made people get TRASHED. Though we all had fun, I see how having only a few things paid for makes sense. Of course, I love it when we don't have to pay for those "special" drinks we love, but I don't think less of the bride/groom when we do have to pay for it. When people have to pay for pop? That I give the side eye.