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This was kind of weird...

You know my whole crazy roommate situation that happened last month? I met some neighbors because of them calling 911, and we sort of keep in touch. Had dinner at their place once, but would not consider them our friends...more like people we know that we shared a bad part of our life with.

Well they (the two neighbors) got engaged. And after chatting me up on FB for a few minutes about wedding planning last night, I get a message today asking me to be her Maid of Honor.

 I declined in what I hope was a polite manner....but seriously, wtf?  Only known them for a month and have spend time in person with them for maybe 4 hours total. I'm torn between being confused and feeling sad for her.

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  • Wow, yeah, that was definitely weird. I'm sure you were very nice about it.
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  • Woah, that is weird.  I do feel sad for her, since it's obvious she doesn't have many friends.  Maybe a family member will step up to be MOH for her.  I don't think you should feel bad for declining.
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  • Wow...that is awkward. I feel sorry for her but also...I'd stay away. She asked you to be her MOH over FB...she obviously doesn't have anyone close to her, for which I am sorry but it also makes me wonder why....I don't think she has good boundaries. Its weird. I'm sure you were gracious but I would be expecting some drama. I hope not. Good luck :)

     

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    Wow...that is awkward. I feel sorry for her but also...I'd stay away. She asked you to be her MOH over FB...she obviously doesn't have anyone close to her, for which I am sorry but it also makes me wonder why....I don't think she has good boundaries. Its weird. I'm sure you were gracious but I would be expecting some drama. I hope not. Good luck :)

     

    You totally hit the nail on the head about boundaries. When I first met her we exchanged numbers and talked a little bit about how I had sold things on etsy and how she tries to make a living doing that. It was a conversation that lasted maybe 5 minutes, as she was insisting on talking about it while I was standing in a parking lot at 1AM waiting for police to arrest my ex-roommate. 

    Anyway, after that she sent me, with no exaggeration, at least 50 text messages over the next two days bugging me about her etsy shop. I ignored most of them and gave vague answers to about 3 of them. 

    She is flippin' weird.

    To the MOH decline, she wrote "Fine, whatever. I was only asking because you know so much about weddings." 

    Weird.

  • Wow, she does sound strange. That may explain why she doesn't have many friends. After you declined to be her MOH, has she continued to try to contact you? Or has she laid off now?
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    Wow, she does sound strange. That may explain why she doesn't have many friends. After you declined to be her MOH, has she continued to try to contact you? Or has she laid off now?

    She hasn't been in touch since. I'm sure she'll figure something out, her FB seems to have a lot of people commenting on things. Oh well, time to move on!

  • That's good that she isn't bugging you. I wonder if most of the ppl on her FB she actually knows in person, or just online.
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