question for the mums - re: nursery school

welshgirl · August 2011

W starts nursery 5 mornings a week on the 20th of September. DH is away that week. That can't be helped. He comes back on Friday evening. PIL are thinking of coming up for that weekend, the Sat/Sun immediately following. Am I overthinking it, thinking it may be too much, for W to go thru a big change without his dad, and then get his dad back, but also his grandparents? I'm thinking too overwhelming to get it all at once?

The other option is the weekend before he starts and before H goes away - and while I'm not worried about that with W, I'm worried that him suddenly bereft of 3 adults and just with mummy and M will make him a terror, esp with the change in starting nursery...

But I'm happy for them to come - in theory, they have off that 10 day stretch, so I'm stuck.

WHat do you think?

newporter · August 2011

Honestly, I think by Saturday morning, W will totally be over the whole new school experience from the week! Having visitors will be good for him and he will be recovered by then. School will have him totally tired out on the days he goes for the first few weeks, but he will be fine for the weekend! It will be so exciting for him, don't worry at all! Same if they come before he starts - he will adapt fine!

welshgirl · August 2011

Thanks

I think the first weekend, before school starts, is more about me and damage limitation before I'm left alone. I'm not worried about that afterwards, obviously, so maybe it's a good idea for them to come. What would you think to them visiting during that week? I can't decide if he'll be too tired from school, and them leaving will be harder than normal, etc, or if they'd be a welcome distraction to no daddy...

allibally · August 2011

welshgirl:
Thanks I think the first weekend, before school starts, is more about me and damage limitation before I'm left alone. I'm not worried about that afterwards, obviously, so maybe it's a good idea for them to come. What would you think to them visiting during that week? I can't decide if he'll be too tired from school, and them leaving will be harder than normal, etc, or if they'd be a welcome distraction to no daddy...

If they come for the week it might be a bit exciting for him. Might distract him a bit from daddy being away. I'm sure he will be tired but that might mean more cuddles and story time after school gets out.

When you were worrying about this last tie if you should start him a week later... I believe the consensus was to start him with the rest of the class on the first day. Those first few days will be about learning the new classroom and classmates

ExpatFamily06 · August 2011

If it were me, I'd start him the week before because I too would be afraid of just way too much going on at once.

welshgirl · August 2011

We don't have the option of starting him earlier, just later, but I agree with what you ladies said a month or two ago, that it's important for him to start with everyone else.

allibally · August 2011

I'm sure he will do fine Welsh. Just make it all seem exciting and fun.

If he's really missing daddy when he comes home from school maybe pull out some paper and crayons and ask him to draw about school to show daddy when he gets back. Or just draw pictures.

ExpatFamily06 · August 2011

welshgirl:
We don't have the option of starting him earlier, just later, but I agree with what you ladies said a month or two ago, that it's important for him to start with everyone else.

Whoops, I read what you typed wrong. I read it as he could start the week before.

frlcb · August 2011

I think kids are way more resilient than we give them credit for and that it is very important for him to start with all his classmates. I would not hold him back a week at all.

MrsBini10 · August 2011

frlcb:
I think kids are way more resilient than we give them credit for and that it is very important for him to start with all his classmates. I would not hold him back a week at all.

Not a mom yet but as a teacher, I totally agree!

allibally · August 2011

Welsh will you be walking W to school or do you drive him or take bus? I was thinking that if it's walking perhaps the day before your H could walk with W to school. As a test run of sort that would make W confident even with daddy out of town for a few days.

hamilton.ja · August 2011

frlcb:
I think kids are way more resilient than we give them credit for and that it is very important for him to start with all his classmates. I would not hold him back a week at all.

This. He will be fine. My parents and in laws were all visiting when Bruce had his first days of school and it was fine. N issues at all. Honestly, I would just have them come whenever is more convenient for you and not worry about the school schedule at all.

FayeD · August 2011

I think either weekend would be fine. Just make a huge positive deal about his new school adventures and no negative deal about daddy being gone for a bit. But if you have a choice, choose what is better for you. You'll be the single parent for the week. Go with what helps you be the best mom for that time.

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