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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Touching Base with TC
Touching Base with TC
In which SingleGirl continues the games with TC and learns a few interesting things in the process
We last heard about from TC when he made some pretentious comments about opera being pretentious, thus ruining his chances at the coolest date ever (a gorgeous boat ride to an open-air opera performance at a historic island fortress). After that, I was annoyed and angry and retaliated by remaining aloof. Or trying to.
I spent days trying to ignore TC's constant presence in my Twitter feed. To some extent, this wasn't hard, since I was a bit preoccupied with my first internet date (details later) and an enormous bomb going off in the middle of my city. After that little event, I didn't have much time or mental energy to spend playing emotional games with the boy.
After a week and a half of nothing, I broke radio silence (internet silence?) by commenting on one of his tweets that was strikingly similar to one I had sent him over a month earlier. Basically, I teasingly accused him of plagiarism. Nothing says, "Hey, what's up?" like "You totally copied my intellectual property!" This did, however, prompt a non-public message saying essentially, "I saw on Facebook that you're okay. You are okay?" I replied that yes, I was physically okay, but it had taken a while to get over the shock. No follow-up. Hmm... TC, did you really care?
I had, in fact, called HG a few days after the bombing, because I needed someone to talk to. He said all the wrong things. However, his saying all the wrong things did manage to release the floodgate of emotions that had been held at bay by the shock. I spent 15 minutes bawling on Skype. I was actually grateful, because I went days without crying, even though I was devastated by everything that had happened around me. Shock is a b?tch.
Back to TC... Somewhere before the above events, I was glancing through (okay, lightly stalking) OtherGirl's Twitter feed, because I knew she was headed to TC's part of the world (jealous!). In doing so, I found out... OMG! She's married! Totally married! I was floored!
Earlier, one of my girlfriends had indulged me by doing a little Twitter-stalking of her own and came to the conclusion that OtherGirl was definitely doing the flirting, and TC wasn't really responding to it, but oh my! It seems that there really isn't anything going on there after all! Can we just go back a moment to the ill-conceived, alcohol-induced email of my previous posting, when I called her out by name? Where is the nearest rock? I think I might need to crawl under it for a while.
Fast-forward to last week. I had been successfully restraining my urge to reply to any of TC's tweets, though unsuccessful at ignoring them (I actually toyed with the idea of unfollowing him, but decided that this would be burning a bridge, because he would eventually realize it). If you were part of the discussion earlier this week, you know what happens next. TC ended up on some internet list of "most eligible bachelors!" WTF?! This just made me embarrassed (for both of us)! Haven't we covered the fact that getting mixed up with a celebrity (even a micro-celebrity) is a dumb idea? And to top it off, he shared it! Oh my! To be fair, he shared it under the guise of, "I'm never going to live this down, am I?" but he shared it on both Twitter and Facebook! I was annoyed with his vanity for a full day before it hit me that I would probably have done the exact same thing. I would be proud of it, but embarrassed at the same time, and probably couldn't resist the temptation to share it. Oh god. He really is just a male version of me!
This whole "eligible bachelor" thing just strengthened my resolve not to initiate contact, since his vanity clearly didn't need any input from me! The rest of my week turned out to be incredibly busy and frustrating due to some nonsense at work, and at one point I vented about it publicly on Twitter to get it off my chest. TC replied. At the very moment I got his message, I was just about to say something snarky to my boss, and TC's comment made me pause long enough to reconsider. So I thanked him for the timing of his message, and then took off for lunch with a former colleague. And tweeted about that, rather than replying to his next message. My tweet basically said that I had finally manged to save a colleague from pointless work and was off to lunch with friends to unwind, and one of my friends at lunch asked about it. Since he knows the history of all things TC, I admitted that it basically translated to "I am a good person, I'm popular, and I have plenty of things to do besides sitting around replying to your every message." Startling realization number two? I'm totally playing the game. I realized that as long as I'm not invested in the outcome, I actually enjoy the game a little.
Unfortunately, in the past few days, TC has said some absolutely adorable things among his normal Twitter outpouring. Add to that the fact that he'll be in town in a week, and my resolve is slipping. So far neither of us has mentioned his trip, so I'm trying not to get my hopes up. Plus, he's busy with work, even when he's traveling. But I can't help entertaining the thought that it would be a lot of fun to steal a few hours of conversation! ...And maybe a kiss. He is a pretty good kisser. Would be a shame to waste that opportunity!
Next time we'll catch up with SingleGirl to discuss the exciting world of online dating. Unfortunately right now we don't have enough interesting data points to make a well-rounded conclusion. We apologize that these posts are so long and are considering trying to make them shorter moving forward.
Re: Touching Base with TC
Wedding stuff.
Sorry to say I agree with everyone - it doesn't sound like just having fun from here...
ETA: which I think you should be doing (having loads of fun)