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Some Random Parenting Questions
1- At what age could I have El watch the letter factory DVD's? Would it be OK now?
2- What's a good book on disapline? I'm always scared I am going to screw it up
3- How do I get her to NOT scream bloody murder at random times?
4- El's favorite word is NO, we do the head nod for yes, as we talk, and she still says NO, how can we work on getting her away from NO?
5- Can I introduce the potty now/18mths+ would that be good or bad?
OH- and since I'm posting, a mini AW- El is an offical walker!! FINALLY!
Re: Some Random Parenting Questions
Yay for El walking!
I'm no expert on any of this since i'm still learning.
1)- i assume anytime?! oliver just learned most of his body parts and can say words but doesn't do well with colors, shapes, or letters yet.
2) positive discipline is one that was recommended and i think people have some other suggestions too. love & logic is another one my friend speaks highly of. i'm just focusing on positive reinforcement, redirecting, and just plain positive behaviors. IMO- they are too young for true discipline so i'm just letting him be him with lots of redirecting a positive environment.
3) i don't think you can. i say "oliver please use your words so i understand what you mean". i think mrs reem wrote some good suggestions on how to talk to a toddler on a post last week. they scream, yell, throw tantrums because they can't communicate or are frustrated.
4) that is normal. all the kids say no right now (our age kids). oliver says no to all things including those he means yes. he doesn't say yes or i love you and i'm patiently waiting for those words. lol.
5) IMO- yes, introduce the potty. we did. he uses the cup in the potty to put things in but doesn't use the potty as a potty nor is he remotely interested in potty training. follow her leads. girls seem to potty train earlier than boys. we are working on him telling me he went poop or has a dirty diaper, etc more than using a potty. i figure once he knows when his diaper is dirty it might be easier to get him to want to use a potty.
hope that helps.
Going to answer as much as I can, since G is younger ;-)
1.) G watches them in the car on long trips and loves them. She likes to mimick the sounds the letters make.
2.) I'm reading Babywhisper for Toddlers right now and I really like it. I also plan to read 1, 2, 3 magic.
3.) na
4.) I think this is a phase. G used to say 'no' alot but now nods/says yes or no when answering a question. Just don't make a huge deal out of it-she may be doing it for the attention (good or bad)
5.) We plan to introduce the potty anytime after 18months/whenever she is interested.
Congrats El!!!
Yay for walking!
1. I would say she could start watching it now. Maya started watching them around 2 years old, but I would have let her watch them sooner if we had them.
2. I honestly haven't read any discipline books, but I know some ladies on here have and can recommend something. I use techniques from The Incredible Years, which is a curriculum we use at our agency. I love it because it's evidence based and focuses on positive play and interactions. I praise a lot, use redirection, and ignore negative attention seeking behaviors.
3. I don't know if there's a lot you can do. They scream when they're frustrated and don't know how else to express their feelings. Sometimes it's effective to ignore this because when you're not feeding into it, they don't see a reason to continue. I've also had luck getting on her level and talking to her quietly. Then she has to stop to hear what I'm saying
I guess it really depends on what triggered it, where we are, etc.
4. Other than not overusing the word "no" with her, it's probably just one of those phases. Instead of saying "no", try saying "let's do this instead".
5. Absolutely! We introduced the potty around 16 months. She wasn't fully potty trained until about 2 1/2 and she went through phases of wanting to use it and not wanting to use it, but it never hurts to introduce it and see how she does.
1 - I think she's fine to watch them now. N liked me to write the ABC's for her starting around that age and she caught on to letter recognization pretty fast.
2 - No help...I never read any.
3 - You can't stop her. You can redirect her, or ignore her. If she's doing it for attention, then ignore it. It's a phase and it will stop, I promise! She's just testing her voice.
4 - No is a phase, too
) Just don't let her be the one in charge. If she says no to something you want her to do, don't not do it just because she says no (I hope that made sense...)
5 - You can introduce the potty whenever you want. Doesn't mean she will use it, but it can't hurt to have one around.
And yay for a walker!!