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H interview follow-up advice? Long.
H went to an interview Thursday, July 21st. He said it went great and felt very, very confident, I even felt confident for him when he told me about it. He was there for an hour and the lady kept saying how impressed she was with his work and qualifications, etc. Everything that is listed for the duties of this job H has experience with and has done in the past. She said she would let him know at the beginning of next week because she had just one more interview on Saturday, July 23rd. Friday H sent her a follow-up email thanking her for taking the time to interview him, blah, blah.
H used to work with her husband so that is how H found out about the job in the first place. She didn't respond to the Friday e-mail so H sent the husband a message on FB to see if they had made a decision yet. She said she was so busy at work so he didn't want to keep sending her e-mails. The husband said they had not filled the position yet but she (the wife/interviewer) really liked H. He also said they were going on vacation that day (Wednesday, the 27th) so she would let him know something at the beginning of the following week. (Week of the 1st.)
H sent an e-mail Monday night, the 1st and Tuesday she wrote back and said they had one more interview that week and would let him know something either way at the end of the week. That was this past Friday, the 5th. I'm wondering what he should do now. Should he send another e-mail to ask if it's been filled since she said she would let him know either way? He doesn't want to be a pest but he really, really wants this job. We are both losing confidence and hope. With all the additional interviews they keep having each week it makes me think they don't want to hire him. But why wouldn't she just say it's been if they aren't considering him?
He sent his resume to this company about 8 months ago and she said then she really, really wanted to hire him but they didn't have a position available then. When H worked with her husband, the husband tried to get him on. So she knows he's been wanting to work there for a long time.
What do you think he should do? I said to send her another message Wednesday/Thursday of this week just to ask the status of it. He has been a total different person since the day of the interview. You can tell he is SO stressed about it and really wants this job. 
I feel so bad for him.
Re: H interview follow-up advice? Long.
This. I'd wait it out. Good luck!
What exactly does he think calling them again will do? THey haven't forgotten about him. There are only 3 options:
1) They offered the job to someone else and aren't going to let any other candidates know they didn't get the job until that person accepts or declines
2) He will get an offer, but they haven't done what they need to on their end yet to be ready to extend it, and they will as soon as they have.
3) They haven't decided yet.
Calling makes no difference in any of those cases. I understand he's anxious and really wants the job. No value will come from calling, yet again, either the HR person or her husband. (Which, btw, that is really random. If a candidate who knew my husband called my husband to ask what he knows about the job, I'd be pissed. That's inappropriate. )
I agree with all the pps. If he calls and asks, he's likely going to get a similar answer to what he's already heard, which doesn't do anyone any good. Timing from a hiring perspective is often different than an interviewee realizes. And yes, I think contacting the H on FB was a bad move.
In any case, one thing to keep in mind is while this is a Big Deal to your DH, it's just another hiring decision for the company. He needs to live life like he didn't get the job, and be pleasantly surprised if they call and offer it to him.
GL to him.
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