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Vent about age comment @ work
I am a middle school teacher and I was helping with registration today and an ex principal brought her child in and commented to my principal about how young I look.
She said, "Wow, ________ this teacher you have is really young looking, she looks like she is only 12!" They both laughed and I didn't know what to say, but that I get it all the time and I halfhartedly laughed too.
Now I just feel mad. This lady's child was 12 and she knows I am not 12 yet she said that (really loudly by the way). I am 31 and I know I don't look 12 ( maybe I could pass for 21). I was dressed well and I had makeup on and I curled my hair (becasue I think it makes me look older) but none of that mattered. I seriously dont look that young, but when people say soemthing like that it really gets to me.
I feel like I don't get the respect that I should be given because of the way I look. I don't really think there is anything I can do about it either.
Re: Vent about age comment @ work
I get that too sometimes. My boss and coworkers call me kiddo. In their defense, I am about 30 years younger than them, and I look about 5 years younger than my age.
I figure, though, that someday I'll wish it was still happening.
EDIT - FWIW, I agree that it is inappropriate.
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It's frustrating. I am the youngest in my office and get comments all the time. It's even worse that the majority of the higher ups in the corporate office don't even have a degree.
I let it roll off my back now.
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I worked at a wine store for most of the past year, and I frequently (read: every single day) was asked about my age (I'm 23). Sometimes it got annoying to have it mentioned so much, but it was worse when people were rude about it.
For example, I carded one woman and she sneered at me, ''You have some nerve carding me when you look like you're 14.''
At my current job I have clients tell me how young I look as well, but not in as much of an insulting way. Like you I wear makeup, do my hair, and dress nice.
It usually doesn't bother me--the one thing that gets to me is when people find out I'm married (married 1 year now) they look at me in shock and ask, ''You're married? Why on Earth did you get married?''
I know they don't mean anything, but I mean, well, think about it. Why do people get married? What kind of question is that? Since my husband's in medical school I've taken to jokingly replying that I married for future money/investment purposes.
I'm starting my third year as a high school teacher. I'm 24, but look younger.
I'm probably one of the most professionally-dressed teachers in the building, and I still get comments from parents. "I thought you were one of the kids." So on and so forth. I bust my butt to come across as professional, and it always bums me out when someone says something like that.
Teacher dress code states that Fridays are jeans and a school t-shirt days. I do it to fit in, but it never fails - this is when all the parents decide to come in.
My students ask how old I am, and I always tell them, "I'm old enough." I may start using this for parents too. Politely, of course.
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Yeah, I used to complain and take offense whenever a co-worker told me that I looked younger than I was..........now, I'd kill to have someone tell me how young I look. I get giddy when the grocery store clerk cards me for buying a bottle of wine, even though I know she has to in order to enter my DOB.
This happens to me as well. So rude!
About a year ago I was picking up some beer for MH and while I was in line the guy behind me said to the clerk, who I happened to know "Aren't you going to card her? She looks like she's 16!"
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When I was younger, like in high school and most of college, I wore bangs and was always told how sophistiacted and mature I look. But now I'm growing out my bangs for my wedding, and I've had lots of people tell me I'm younger (esp wedding vendors which is a little weird haha) Granted I did just graduate and start working with people who are the majority of people are 30 plus. Oh well...
I'm also a middle school teacher, and I regularly get mistaken for a student. Not only do I look young, but I'm short too, so when I'm in the midst of students, I blend right in.
It doesn't really bother me. I'll be 34 in a few weeks, so I'd much rather look younger instead of older!
Ugh, I hate that! People find out that I've been married for a year, and they say things like "Oh wow, you're so young to be married!" I want to say, "Excuse me, I made an adult decision. I really don't feel that I'm throwing my life away!"
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It's less about how you look and more about them feeling self-conscious about them getting older.
I know it's frustrating, and I've been there. You just have to grin and bear it, thank them as if it was a compliment, and move on. Eventually, it will stop.
I am the youngest person in my office, but one of only 2 with a college degree (everyone else had the experience to get the job, but they hired me for my degree without the experience). My coworkers are all at least 20 years older than me, but know I do my job well so they don't give me a hard time. Occasionally we'll tease back and forth about the age difference, but most of the time we just tease about how I'm the only one left who can still have children and should quickly to make them all feel old again. lol Once in a while, a client will make a comment about my age (I'm 29, but could easily pass for early 20s or late teens). My coworkers are always fast to jump in and back me up.
I graduated college when I was 27 (2 months before getting married). I was talking to a friend of a friend at a birthday party a couple weeks before graduation. I was telling them how excited I was to finally be graduating. They looked at me dead serious, and said, "So where are you going to college next year?" I very nicely explained that I had just graduated from college, and they were completely flabergasted!
Apparently I'm still young enough to pass for a high schooler. I was at an event with some of the kids I work with when an aunt of the girls walked up and handed her a wine cooler. Right in front of me.
In the ensuing craziness (obviously taking away the drinks and having a board member confront the aunt about her unacceptable behavior) the comment "how was I supposed to know she was there? she looked like one of the kids!" was made. Never mind that she was the @$$ who gave her 18-year-old neice a drink.