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Sorry, a potty training post
Mom's of toddlers or older, maybe you can give me some guidance:
M is pretty much pee trained and has been since about April. Poop on the other hand, is another story.
He refuses to try to sit on the toilet or potty to poop (tenses his legs to prevent himself from sitting and then won't go at all that day).
He already knows he will get a big gift when he starts pooping on the toilet. I talk to him about it when he doesn't have to go and he says that he will try the next day, but then he never does.
Any advice about what to do?
Re: Sorry, a potty training post
Bruce was like this and I know a few other people who have had this problem with their kids - they like to stand up to poop becuase it gives them good leverage. One person I know said her pediatrician told her it was almost like they have to retrain their muscles to do it in the sitting position so it can be hard for some kids.
With Bruce we knew he could and that he just didn't want to, it wasn't at all a readiness issue it was just stubborness. We ended up letting him be in underwear, which he wanted, and then he would poop in his underwear and he HATED the clean up. After a few days of pooping in his underwear and having to stand in the tub while we hosed him off with the shower he decided he'd try to poop on the potty. As soon as he did we went out and he got to pick whatever toy he wanted at the toy store (ok within reason, we weren't buying him a bike or anything! but he didn't know that!).
I saw a suggestion to try to raise the little potty up so they are closer to standing and then slowly lower it. I have no idea how you'd accomplish that, though. Another friend of mine also swears by putting them on backwards if they're using a big potty. It gives them more stability. Good luck.
My advice is to just give it time and maybe, if you think it's either stubborness or anxiety, keep reiterating that big boys don't use pull ups or go in their pants, and maybe it'll work? Otherwise, it will come. Do you have a deadline, like nursery school?
W was fairly quick, but in all honesty, it took a slight tummy bug and poo coming every hour, every time he sat on the toilet (he was pee trained at that point) so ti was super easy. Then any anxiety was gone and he was happy to poo in the potty or on the toilet.
A friend of mine's son just turned 3 and literally that evening decided he was done. Previously, he was like Finn, asking for pull ups to poop in.
Thanks for the advice!
He does have a deadline, he starts kindergarten the first week of Sept.
I will try only wearing underpants and see how that goes. The stand up shower to clean up would be torture for him!