S/O Poll: the other kind of snipping

amandasw · August 2011

the kind a guy would get to make sure there are no more babies
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jennuinne · August 2011

DH's made it clear that ain't happening, but I think differently. It's an on-going conversation. I intend to get him more info and at some point, after we've had the two he wants, he'll have to decide if he's going to or risk more or risk no sex....

Ciaram22 · August 2011

H has made that one clear that when we are done having kids he will have that done. So max of 2 more kids.

karimychel · August 2011

DH is fine with having the procedure done after we're done having kids. He agrees its way less invasive for men.

I mean, I've been on BC for a long dam time and made his life a lot easier, at some point I see the guy should take some sacrifices. (yes, I realize that sounds a bit b!tchy.)

niq24601 · August 2011

We used condoms instead of the pill or nuvaring or injections or whatever, so, we'd probably just go back to that. Really not interested in doing anything that permanent.

karebear219 · August 2011

jennuinne:
DH's made it clear that ain't happening, but I think differently. It's an on-going conversation. I intend to get him more info and at some point, after we've had the two he wants, he'll have to decide if he's going to or risk more or risk no sex....

This is the same for us. I get so mad at H for not even considering getting it done. I don't want to take the 2% chance I'll end up with a baby at 41 years of age by not doing something permanent.

amandasw · August 2011

My H is totally up for it - he doesn't see it as a big deal and thinks the reward is well worth it

sarack · August 2011

me (just now) : babe, how do you feel about getting snipped

H: HELLL NOOO!!!! are you smoking that crack?

me: no, it was just a question on the nest and i just wanted to know how you felt.

H: you must be smoking crack....

lol. obviously it's not happening.

uwhuskygirl · August 2011

SS?- He offered to do it bc it's less complicated than me getting my tubes tied, but it didn't fix my other girl problems, so it ended up being a moot offering.

ETA: FWIW, H was their "miracle baby." His mom had her tubes tied for at least 5 years and was in her early 40's when she got pg with him. The failure rates for males seems to be a lot lower. I'mjustsayin...

ETAA: I looked it up the male snip failure rate is 1 in 2000 whereas the female failure rates are 1 in 1000.

amandasw · August 2011

uwhuskygirl:
SS?- He offered to do it bc it's less complicated than me getting my tubes tied, but it didn't fix my other girl problems, so it ended up being a moot offering.

I feel like this is the first option (because I was curious about their thoughts on the subject) - it's not necessarily in relation to whether you're having anything done, but SS is an ok choice I suppose

I know this might sound bad, but I think it annoys me a little when guys have a knee-jerk "no way!" reaction - I think it's a learned behavior (tv, movies, other guys) and they just haven't really thought about it. Like pp said, I think they can take for granted how much girls have to do concerning babies/periods/BC/etc.

ETA: also, you girls can now use this poll to show them that it's not that crazy and plenty of guys are ok with it

sarack · August 2011

amandasw- i understand where you're coming from.. but i hate when girls say 'well i carried the babies, he should just get it cut'. i don't think you should force people to do it if they don't want to. i have a friend who suggested it and basically talked their SO into it... and it makes me sad.

avila01 · August 2011

I voted "we haven't discussed it," but maybe I should've picked SS? We haven't discussed it; it's really not an option. Chalk it up to religious reasons, if you'd like...but charting will allow us to continue to avoid using hormonal BC, and neither of us will need or want to have anything permanent done.

jennlin · August 2011

when we first started dating (h and i talked about very serious issues early-on) he said "no"...more so because he was afraid of it, and he didn't know a lot about it. after i educated him on the pros and cons, he agreed to it....because i wanted it. now that we are older, h is learning about how many of our friends have it done (in their 30's) and is 100% onboard. i'm glad our friends have started talking about it, and it's become "real", instead of me just showing him statistics.

amandasw · August 2011

@sarack - I agree that girls shouldn't hold things over guy's heads and force them into it, but I think jenn's post is perfect because I think it is a good example of how a guy can learn about it and then make an educated decision rather than just refusing to talk about it - I guess if he still said no after all that, then that's different, but at least he would have thought through it all

jennlin:
when we first started dating (h and i talked about very serious issues early-on) he said "no"...more so because he was afraid of it, and he didn't know a lot about it. after i educated him on the pros and cons, he agreed to it....because i wanted it. now that we are older, h is learning about how many of our friends have it done (in their 30's) and is 100% onboard. i'm glad our friends have started talking about it, and it's become "real", instead of me just showing him statistics.

sarack · August 2011

amandasw:

@sarack - I agree that girls shouldn't hold things over guy's heads and force them into it, but I think jenn's post is perfect because I think it is a good example of how a guy can learn about it and then make an educated decision rather than just refusing to talk about it - I guess if he still said no after all that, then that's different, but at least he would have thought through it all

jennlin:
when we first started dating (h and i talked about very serious issues early-on) he said "no"...more so because he was afraid of it, and he didn't know a lot about it. after i educated him on the pros and cons, he agreed to it....because i wanted it. now that we are older, h is learning about how many of our friends have it done (in their 30's) and is 100% onboard. i'm glad our friends have started talking about it, and it's become "real", instead of me just showing him statistics.

agreed. just saying no because you know nothing about it is one thing.. but after reading up on it and you're still not interested, that should be the end of it.

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