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Are you always on time? Always late?
Here I am waiting for my friend to pick me up. We both have the day off and she asked if I would hem her pants for her. She was supposed to be here at 12:30 "at the latest". It's now just a few minutes shy of 2pm. She is always like this!
So I have gotta know: are you more like her (late for everything ever--in fact she even missed jury duty because of her inability to get out of bed), or more like me (early to a fault).
Any pet peeves with this subject?
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Re: Are you always on time? Always late?
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I answered for myself, by myself. If I am on my own, I am **ALWAYS** early for things. 10-15 minutes early.
If I am with DH, I'm lucky if we're only 30 minutes late. This drives me up the wall, incidentally.
Before Q, I was always a few minutes late to everything, now I'm usually right on time or a few minutes early. There are exceptions though.
I hope your friend has at least texted several times to update you on her progress.
Usually late. It often doesn't even matter if I double or triple the time. Somehow I still wind up late. Or if I'm ready early/on time DH makes us late. Or traffic makes us late. Or something improbable will occur to make us late. It's ridiculous. It stresses me out like crazy and I hate it. And I think anyone who is irritated by it is totally justified.
A lot of our friends are late too, so that doesn't foster change. Especially since I reaaallllly dislike being early. Being early feels awkward as hell to me.
I think you absolutely should text/call to give warning at the first sign of lateness and continue to update accordingly.
We usually try to compensate for the lateness by paying for dinner or something applicable. We're very guilty late people.
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I'm generally early for everything. Like way too early most times. It stems from a Mother who set the clock 15 minutes ahead, the clock in her car, her alarm clock, her watch. I remember once when I was little she was mad because she couldn't set her cell phone 15 minutes ahead. It was so funny.
And then I attended a summer camp at Berkley for youth interested in medicine and our group mantra was " Early is on time, on time is late, and late is left behind." And I continue to live my life by that.
Oh and I'm married to a former Marine and he is early to a fault. Its like a disease.
And my Dad is always always late for everything. It drove my mom batty.
Being late from time to time is going to happen - we live in the bay area and sometimes it's hard to predict traffica and/or how long it takes to get places.
However, if you are always late, I find that to be insanely rude. You are telling me my time isn't as important as yours. I wouldn't have any qualms ending a friendship over this - if you can't respect me enough to be on time, I can't be your friend. I don't feel like that's asking to much.
Always late. There are a few exceptions though. Dr's appts, weddings, school, work. Things like that.
I have been late for a wedding once though.
Having kids just made me arrive even later for things.
Haha! That part cracked me up, winterorchids!
Loved reading these responses, ladies! She ended up getting here around 2:30, but by that point I had begun cleaning my apartment in the wait, so I guess it wasn't a total loss!
If I am late now, I notify people as ahead of time as I can and I apologize profusely when I get there. I hate being late, I really do. It really bothers me to be late myself.
With a kid it is really tough because it will be the ONE time EJ wets through a diaper or poops, or something crazy...and then I have to take deep breaths and keep really happy and calm because its not like he did anything wrong, it is just my psycho-craziness that gets me all bend out of shape about being late for things.
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EJ is growing up too fast!
I am nearly always early, it just a matter of how early. I HATE when people are late. HATE HATE HATE. I get nervous, worried, anxious. If I am late I get heart palpitations. It is really bad. I freak out.
I would kindly ask your friend to just say you will be there in the afternoon with no specific time... because it really does me in.
Ugh, there is nothing more rude than being late. I went through a time period where my two friends were routinely 15 minutes late and I'd be left sitting at a restaurant or a bar by myself.
Clearly, I'm usually on time.
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This.
I hate people who are late. I am early or on time. If you give me a time to show, I will be there or if you tell me you are going to arrive at xxxx time, then do it.
The ONLY exception is parties. I show up fashionably late.
However, I do understand if you have children, sometimes being on time is not always possible. If you give me a call, and say hey, DC just got car sick, I can't make it, not a problem. However, if you do not call me and do a no show, THEN I have a problem.
Ditto. I was thinking this as I was reading people's responses. I would cut my friends some slack if they had little ones at home. But none of my close friends have kids, they're just not paying attention to the clock. I deserve better than that.
I am usually late. It's a terrible habit and I keep asking myself WHY I do it. A lot of times it happens because I think doing something or getting ready or whatever will go faster than it does in reality. For whatever reason, things just take much longer than I think they will. I've started giving myself more time than I think is actually necessary (like when I woke up an extra 15 minutes early they other day so that I would have more than an hour to get ready to leave... I was still 30 minutes late leaving!)
DH hates it and we often argue about my lateness. I am trying to get better because I realize that he and probably a lot of others take it as a huge sign of disrespect. It's not what I want people thinking; I just can't seem to get my $hit together unfortunately.